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Margaret feels good when she can participate in whatever is happening at the moment. Feeling relaxed and in harmony is important to her — more important than her own opinions, her own views, and her own plans, for example. When she is around others, all of these fade into the background for her; she can — temporarily — forget all about them. She isn’t aware of this — it just happens. No matter how firmly she sets her mind to doing many things for herself on a Saturday — as soon as a girlfriend calls or her partner makes plans, Margaret’s plans are forgotten. She has the great strength of being able to consider many viewpoints and see situations from all sides. Because she avoids confrontations, she already sees a confrontation if she doesn’t agree with someone’s opinion or suggestion. When that happens, it’s easier to follow another person’s wish, thus preserving harmony. Given Margaret's habit of quickly acquiescing to others, she has difficulty perceiving what she herself truly wants. She needs space and time away from others to come to herself, find her own point of view, and arrive at what she wants from life.