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It’s difficult to start observing yourself when you don’t know what to watch for. Tina discovered her most important underlying driving force after using the Enneagram to observe herself for some time and reflecting on her observations. All at once, several things became clear and visible to her. If this is your first encounter with the Enneagram and you’re reading the book from the beginning, you might not have a clear idea in which of the nine types you will most recognize yourself. (See Chapter 2 for a review.) No worries: I’ll help you take it one step at a time. If your curiosity gets to be too much for you and you want to get a first impression of your type, you can check out on the Internet some of the quick tests for finding out.

Answering questions and clicking to see a test result won’t add much to your self-awareness — and self-awareness is exactly the goal of working with the Enneagram.

Let’s start here with the first step. In the left column of Table 3-1, you find a list of aspects you might unconsciously be focusing your attention on. The right column contains examples of where your energy is flowing in such a case. You should also ask: Do you recognize what your attention is automatically drawn to and which things you unconsciously put your energy into?

TABLE 3-1: Attention and energy

Attention Is Focused On This	Energy Is In This
What isn’t correct isn’t appropriate	Improving, creating order
The needs of others	Giving, helping
Applause, earning points	Reaching goals, completing tasks, achieving something
What's lacking	Comparing yourself with others, longing
The expectations of others	Observing from afar, holding back, and barely getting involved
Threats, risks, dangers	Being alert, recognizing and avoiding risks
What keeps you constrained, what isn't fun	Keeping options and possibilities open, having fun
Vulnerable, the seat of power and strength	Being strong and combative, protecting yourself and others
Disharmony, competing desires, plans, and points of view	Integrating, merging with others, avoiding and preventing conflicts