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Often, when people begin describing their intentions, they talk a lot about what they don’t want and how they are going to get rid of it. That is very important and is, in fact, a prerequisite to be able to attain anything. As we know from studying the systems theory of the interaction of any organism in its environment, there are always things that the organism wants (goals) and things that the organism wants to avoid (noxiants). People are the same way. We want to get as much of the good stuff in life as we can while avoiding as much of the bad stuff (however we each define those).

Nonetheless, it is not very powerful to write a goal statement from a place of avoidance, as in “I don’t want to overreact,” or “I don’t want to overeat,” or “I don’t want to lose money in the stock market,” or “I don’t want to scare my employees.” This actually focuses your attention on the negative condition and increases the likelihood that you will get more of it. We talk about this, in simple terms, as writing a goal in toward language rather than away from.

At a deeper level, though, we humans have a continuous energetic exchange with the universe, in which we are constantly training our subconscious as to what we really want in life. The Law of Attraction does not understand away from, only toward. As with all laws, there is no judgment or evaluation attached to the objects of our attention. In fact, the entire concept of goals and noxiants is a human concept, outside of what exists in nature. The Law of Attraction is much simpler than that. Anything that occupies our mental energy is expanded and brought into our life in greater quantities.

With that, it becomes vitally important that we learn to say no to the things that do not fit our particular vision of how we want to exist in this life. A good friend of mine once said, “Until I hear and understand your no, your yes means nothing.” Take that to an energetic level and begin to understand that you are constantly telling your subconscious where to focus energy. By saying no to the things in life that do not fit your path, you allow extra mindshare to dedicate to your heartfelt yes.

By saying no to what does not fit, you do yourself—and everyone else—a great service. If something in your life does not work, begin saying no to it. At the same time, find those parts of your life that most fit your highest purpose and align with your path, and practice actively saying yes to those things. The power of no is in defining boundaries. This, in turn, provides clarity and power to every yes that follows.