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“They must often change who would be constant in happiness or wisdom.”

CONFUCIUS

Some of us occasionally excuse our childish or inappropriate behavior by thinking or saying, “Well, that’s just the way I am. I can’t help it.” When illness has us in its thrall, we may be tempted to fall back on that self-serving rationalization more frequently.

When pain and fatigue are especially acute, we probably should relax normal restraints to some extent. However, that doesn’t mean we should allow ourselves unlimited behavioral latitude when we’re feeling poorly.

By thinking or saying, “That’s just the way I am, I can’t help it,” aren’t we really telling ourselves that we can’t change and won’t ever change? Aren’t we insisting that we have no choice or power concerning our emotions and behavior? And, in order to justify self-will running riot, aren’t we making it clear that we’re quite willing to accept these self-imposed limitations?

No matter how severe or debilitating a physical illness may be, we always have some control over our attitudes and actions. We always have choices. And we always have spiritual tools which, when applied, allow us to meet life with an unbound and tranquil spirit.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

I can change, but first I have to be willing to change.