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“When a resolute young fellow steps up to the great bully, the world, and takes him boldly by the beard, he is often surprised to find it comes off in his hand, and that it was only tied on to scare away the timid adventurers.”

RALPH WALDO EMERSON

We’ve all been people-pleasers at one time or another in our lives. Some of us still have trouble standing up for ourselves. We fear disapproval from others; we don’t want to be out of step or look bad. In short, we’ve never learned to say no and then stick by our guns.

In the past, the consequences were not always negative when we caved in to pressure from others. Now that we’re ill, however, we simply can’t afford to participate in activities that may not be in our best interest. So we’re putting our people-pleasing days behind us. We’re learning to say “no,” gracefully, but firmly.

We’re aware that some people automatically take a no response as rejection and become hurt. That’s why, whenever possible, we’re honest about our reason for turning down an invitation or bowing out of a commitment. If it seems appropriate, we express our appreciation for the offer.

Of course, it’s almost impossible to be appreciative (or even graceful) when someone puts on the pressure. On those occasions, it is especially important to stand our ground. The more often we’re able to say no and experience positive results, the easier it gets.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY

Do I still hesitate to say no for fear of disapproval?