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If you think something bad will happen, then it will. It’s as simple as that. We all have negative thoughts such as, “I won’t get the job,” “I’m not good enough,” or “He doesn’t like me.” It’s these types of thoughts that prevent you from accomplishing your goals and achieving your potential.

One technique that is used most often to change negative thought patterns is to replace them with positive ones. For instance, whenever you have a negative thought where you use the words “I can’t,” replace the thought with “I can.” You also can replace the negative thought with a visual. For instance, we all think about the possibility of getting into a car accident. When you think this thought, replace it with a vision of something more pleasant such as playing with a puppy, smelling a rose, or sitting having a beer at a baseball game. The end all objective is to replace a negative thought with a vision of a happier outcome which in return will assist you with creating a better future.

There are times when a negative thought becomes part of your belief system because someone else mentions it to you. For instance, as a teenager, someone mentions that you look heavy in the color white. As an adult, you no longer wear the color white fearing that you still look heavy.

The medical community can significantly impact people’s belief systems in a negative way. I am living proof. Prior to getting married, Michael, my now husband, and I had the discussion of children. It was a difficult discussion because I had to share with him the probability that I may not be able to conceive children. I shared that in 1989, after months of extensive picking and prodding, doctors at a prominent hospital in Boston, Massachusetts diagnosed me with premenopausal symptoms. As a result, they said that I most likely will not be able to have children even with fertility treatment. It was heartbreaking for me to hear those words come out of the mouths of well-educated, highly experienced professional doctors. I was only 21 years old. How could this be possible? I loved children and had always dreamt of having one or two. But that day, when I heard the doctor’s words, “You most likely will not be able to have children even with fertility drugs” a dagger shot through my heart. For a split second, the doctors took away my vision and hope.

As the years passed, something inside of me questioned the doctor’s diagnosis. I still could see the vision of me giving birth to twins. When I shared the doctor’s diagnosis with Michael, I also shared my childhood vision of having twins. Michael for some unknown reason didn’t seem concerned with what the doctors diagnosed, nor my vision. It was like he knew something that I didn’t. At that time, it was important to Michael to put off the subject of having children until our first wedding anniversary. Well, to our surprise seven months after we got married I was pregnant. And not even 16 months after my first son was born, I gave birth to a boy and a girl—yes twins!

Everyday doctors misdiagnose patient’s symptoms as a result of lack of research and knowledge. The doctors who misdiagnosed me with premenopausal symptoms were professional and truly did their best to understand what my body was experiencing at that point in time. Through this experience, I learned that you should never let go of your vision even if someone else tells you differently. If you can see it, then you can create it no matter what negative thought someone else shares with you. Perhaps my pregnancy is a miracle. Or just maybe it is a result of the power of the mind–the power of visualization and positive thinking.

Take some time to think of a situation when someone told you something negative about yourself which you then believed. How did that make you feel? Do you still have that belief about yourself, today? What power did this person have that caused you to accept what they said? Now think about a situation where someone told you something about yourself that you didn’t believe. Why didn’t you believe it?