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MISSION 1: Conquering AA

Today we’re going to discuss the single most debilitating problem facing would-be Casanovas: approach anxiety.

Approach anxiety is a crippling disease that occurs when a man is confronted by the prospect of approaching an attractive woman. Symptoms include sweaty palms, increased heart rate, shortness of breath, and a lump in the throat. Psychologically speaking, it’s less a fear of approaching than a fear of rejection.

If you hesitated before walking up to anyone during any of your field assignments so far, then you have approach anxiety. If you haven’t been nervous yet, you probably will as the missions grow more advanced, or when you see that one special girl. It happens to the best of us.

So turn to your Day 6 Briefing while there’s still time and read the cure proposed by Don Diego Garcia, a senior coach in the Stylelife Academy.

MISSION 2: If You Can’t Say Something Nice . . .

Make sure you shower, shave, and feel good before you leave the house today. If you developed a confidence boosting ritual on Day 4, do it. If you purchased any new items yesterday, put them on. You’re going out again.

Your mission: Give four women spontaneous compliments. Two of these women can be people you know—friends, coworkers, even your mother. But two should be strangers.

Avoid general compliments such as “You’re beautiful.” And avoid saying anything that could be construed as showing sexual interest, like “You’re hot.” Instead, focus on complimenting something specific, such as her nails, shoes, handbag, or posture. After spending time rigorously examining yourself yesterday, you should find it easier to spot and appreciate these details.

The most common response will be a sincere, polite, or dismissive thank-you. Leave after the compliment, unless she continues the conversation.

The key is to be perceived not as trying to flatter or hit on her but as showing sincere appreciation of something you’ve noticed spontaneously.

Though giving compliments isn’t recommended for all approaches, generating attraction isn’t the goal today. This exercise is designed to help eliminate approach anxiety, improve your skills of observation, and get you out of your head and aware of someone else’s reality.

MISSION 3: The Eight-hour Rule

Get a good night’s sleep, because tomorrow is one of the most crucial days in the Stylelife Challenge.