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Everyone feels anger at one time or another. Triggers for anger occur when someone does you wrong, hurts your feelings, or challenges your security.

The goal of this Reiki Principle is to express your anger in a way that doesn’t hurt anyone (including you). Anger that isn’t properly channeled can lead to violence, war, crime, stress, and disease.

Anger that’s properly channeled can further your personal growth. The anger is a signal that you have an imbalance or conflict that needs to be addressed. (See the steps later in this section.) You can transform your anger by making changes in your thinking or actions.

Not getting angry doesn’t mean pushing away your anger. Suppressed anger can come back to bite you and others. Anger that is submerged will arise again, perhaps even stronger and more destructive.

Here are steps you can take to help you transform your anger:

1 See the anger.You can’t do anything about your anger if you don’t first recognize that you’re angry.

2 Take a timeout.Count to ten, breathe deeply, and think about the situation before reacting. Avoid knee-jerk reactions. Don’t send angry emails or shout angry words.If the anger dissipates on its own, let it go. If you still feel angry, you must go deeper to see what’s going on.

3 Decide what the anger means.Anger frequently masks other emotions, such as fear. For example, you might be angry with your husband for quitting his job because you fear being poor. Your fear about financial insecurity is what’s underneath the anger.Most people have some level of unresolved anger, trauma, loss, or other negative emotional state. Maybe you’re holding onto anger toward someone who harmed you in the past.Healing is a dedicated process of untangling, resolving, and releasing. The Reiki symbol Sei Hei Ki (see Chapter 8) can help with emotional healing. Be gentle with yourself and others; this is deep, sacred work.

4 Take action.Some action is clear-cut: If you fear financial insecurity, maybe you need to spend less, apply for a loan, or find ways to bring in more money. If someone in your life is making you angry on a regular basis, maybe you need to spend less time with that person.Other action is a remedy for actions not taken in the past, such as setting boundaries with behavior that’s not okay, revealing more of yourself to loved ones, or speaking your truth.

Feeling angry isn’t pleasant. Sometimes, you may be tempted to drown the anger in food, alcohol, or other addictive substances. You can’t run from the anger. Use it instead to lead you further in your spiritual journey. If you take the time to meditate on your anger, you’ll find a message intended for you. Your anger is actually a great teacher that can lead you to your truth.

Learning to recognize and transform your anger from a knee-jerk reaction to calm action takes dedicated practice. You probably can’t change from being an angry person to being a calm one overnight. But you can follow the “just for today” idea to change your thinking and behavior. Slowly but surely, your anger will diminish.

If you find that you can’t resolve your anger or worry on your own, or if you’re having difficulty with traumatic memories, please find a therapist, counselor, or spiritual advisor who can help you.