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Children, whether you believe it or not, actually want to please their parents and when they demonstrate poor or unacceptable behaviour they are doing it for a reason. The trouble is they won’t realize the reason themselves and it will be up to you as parents to find out what it is. Try talking to your children to see what they are feeling. It would be so much simpler if children could explain their problem. If only they could tell us, for example, ‘Mum, Dad, look it’s like this, I’ve had your undivided attention for four years and now there’s this new kid in my territory, in fact in my old cot. She’s taking a large portion of your time and, quite frankly, I’m not happy. So to vent my feelings I’m going to throw a tantrum the next time we are in a café.’ You don’t have to be Einstein to work out that problem, jealousy, but it’s finding out by trying to decipher their behaviour which is the tricky bit. However, once you have worked out what the problem is you can address the root cause and hopefully see a change in their behaviour. This may take a bit of trial and error.