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If you hate a person, you hate something in him that is part of yourself. What isn’t part of ourselves doesn’t disturb us. ∼Hermann Hesse

Ah, yes! How many times have we come across someone who really rubs us the wrong way? We may even want to confront that person on their irritating traits—in the name of honesty, of course. Our arrogance tells us that a few well-chosen words from us will set them straight. Hopefully, we are reminded by our sponsor that we may want to discuss it with the person in the mirror before confronting the one who is rubbing us the wrong way. Frustrating as it may seem at the time, what bugs us the most in another so often is a reflection of our own stuff. Once we examine the situation more carefully inside and out (the uncomfortableness inside us triggered by traits coming out in them), we may see our own character traits getting rubbed out.

I do not worry about rubbing out their

character defects. I learn to rub out my own.

The image in the mirror slowly shakes its head. Yes, there has been change; but surely it is not enough. Surely there could be more sincerity, greater risk-taking, deeper belief, less indulgence in character defects.

∼Chemically Dependent Anonymous P 59