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At the point of death we have to relinquish control of our body, our brain, our timetable, our relationships, our programme – of everything. This is very difficult for some of us. If we are not used to doing this in lesser ways, it can create enormous tension, unhappiness and even violent death throes.

It makes sense to practise making transitions now. Nature provides examples of creatures who make transitions which can encourage us. The plant-eating tadpole makes the gradual transition into an insect-eating toad. The water creature loses its gills and gains lungs which enable the toad to breathe air. The intestines shorten and legs grow.

Scientists tell us that we humans shed and replace all our skin every seven years. At death our skin shrinks because a different part of us is replaced – the non-material part of us.

Make a space at least once a week to become aware of what or who you are holding on to. Write this down on a piece of paper, and then burn this or throw it away, to symbolize that you are relinquishing control of this bit of your life.

What follows? Often it is greater freedom, peace or clarity.

The next week, go on to some other area of your life where you need to relinquish control. As you do this, you realize that you gain more than you lose when you make these transitions, and so trust grows within you that all will be well when you make the last transition of all.