Читать книгу Triumph Of Love Over Ego - Saeed Habibzadeh - Страница 15

Basically, we have two ways of perceiving and processing information.

One way consists of taking everything and everyone personally. We do this whenever we use our own taste, our ideology and other personal preferences as the standard to measure everything against. In other words, we do not really care what it is that is actually happening at the moment, we only care how it affects us. Our ego decides whether we like or dislike something, whether we regard something as beautiful or ugly, pleasant or unpleasant. The more you let whatever happens during your day affect you personally, the more touchy, irritable and vulnerable you will become. You will be more difficult to get along with, because you judge everything by your own moods and not by what actually happens. It is not important to you what happens, you only care what it means to you. Egoistic people have no interest in the truth; they would rather invent their own truth and make it fit their ego. They judge and condemn, and they act entirely as they please. One of the egoists’ more interesting characteristics is their tendency to interpret everything. They value their own interpretation above all else. They regard as true only that which they imagine they see, and not that which is actually happening.

Constantly taking everything personally turns us into isolated, lonely and bitter individuals. If you take everything personally, you always regard yourself as a victim of circumstance and are likely to end up paranoid.

Objectivity is the application of love to truth.

Objectivity is a completely different way of approaching our fellow humans and our daily lives. When dealing with the events of the day, we are truly objective only if we manage to give the highest priority to the facts and not to our ego. Being objective means regarding an event in terms of itself, and not in terms of what it means to us personally. If we act and react objectively, we act with intelligence and as appropriate to the situation. This approach uplifts us, increases our self-esteem and self-confidence and may even save us from making the wrong decisions. Intelligent people do not place value on packaging and appearance – they place value on content and reality.

Intelligent people do not lie to themselves or to others, which is why they are not easily betrayed by others.