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Remember that time you and your fiancé used to date? You had butterflies just thinking about going out on the town together or cooking dinner at home. Now you’re in wedding planning mode and all you do is talk about the wedding. Your conversations may even end in a big fight because you can’t possibly understand why it’s important to your fiancé to play a certain song at the reception. You hate that song and don’t understand why they like it and there is no way you are playing that song, so you argue. In this section we’ll discuss the importance of dating the person you are going to marry and maintaining the relationship through the wedding planning process.

Wedding planning can cause stress in a relationship. It can be frustrating to disagree on the details or upsetting that they don’t seem to care about those details. You feel as though this should be the most important thing on their list of things to do, but maybe it isn’t. Wherever you fall on the spectrum, take a break from constantly talking about the wedding and go on a date. When you’re on that date, you are not allowed to talk about the wedding.

You’re planning an event and problem-solving together. This can bring up unexpected emotions because, let’s face it, planning a wedding is a big deal. But you’re both different people. One of you may be so excited about the details while the other feels stressed and overwhelmed. In your marriage, there will be decisions that you have to make together — big decisions like buying a house or car or starting a family.

The most important thing to do is to take care of your relationship through the wedding planning process. Like I’ve said, there is life after wedding planning, and you will be married. Take the time to continue to build your relationship outside of the wedding planning box. Think back to before you were engaged, and you spent time together. What did you do for fun? Make every effort possible to continue to do those things and focus on building your relationship.

In case you forgot what it’s like to go on a date with your fiancé, I put together a list of some fun team-building date night ideas. And remember, no wedding talk!

 Camp out under the stars.

 Build a bonfire together.

 Recreate your first date.

 Make something from scratch.

 Plan a scavenger hunt.

 Attend a paint or pottery class.

 Make homemade pizza.

 Do something that your fiancé loves to do and you don’t.

 Build a fort in the living room, like when you were a kid.

 Take a dance class together.