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Asking a friend to go through egg donation or even to be your gestational carrier is another possible option, whether you’re single or partnered. The plusses include having a known entity to work with over the next nine-plus months — although this can be a good thing or a bad thing — and having more access to the pregnant person than you will likely have with a paid surrogate. Having a friend rather than a family member might also add a useful extra layer of emotional distance between you and the surrogate if things start to get complicated. After all, it’s much easier for a friend to keep their emotional distance than it is for a family member, who’s at hand for every major holiday and birthday.

If you’re involving a friend — even a really good friend — in your future child’s creation, it’s very important to make sure all your legal Ps and Qs are in order. Friends break up more often than families do, and keeping this part of your friendship as more business than sentiment is essential.

Acting as a gestational carrier requires a huge time commitment, as well as a possible loss of income for a time period. Asking someone you know to be a carrier is asking a lot, but even so, a friend or relative who loves being pregnant — it’s really best if your carrier has already had a child — may jump at the chance.