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Unlike men, women by their very nature tend to listen to their heart rather than to the voice of common sense and practical wisdom. And most of the time they behave and live accordingly.

Naturally, there is no rule without exception.

Only these exceptions, by their very existence, simply prove the general rule.

An episode from my life

Last time we were moving to a new flat we threw out or gave away to relatives and friends practically all our old furniture.

As a result, the first few days until we bought the new furniture, our living room was almost empty and if we wanted to watch TV, we had to sit on the carpet on the floor.

Once at the weekend my husband and I set out shopping to buy a new settee for our living room.

However, on the way we happened to stop by at a picture gallery to see the exhibition of modern Russian artists. And I fell head over heels in love with one of the pictures there. It was love at first sight that struck me like a thunderbolt.

The painting was so cheerful and full of optimism! So filled with light and air that I had the impression I could feel the light wind touching the flower petals in the picture on my own cheeks. It really caught my fancy. And without thinking twice, I bought it there and then, spending all the money that was intended for the purchase of the settee.

I brought it home, put it on the bare wall of our living room and was beyond myself with joy.

The prospect of living without a sofa for a few more days or even weeks did not in the least frighten, upset or bother me. I had my picture! And that was all that mattered! What else did I need?

When I felt low or was in a bad mood, when I came home tired at the end of the long day,

I stood near the window or sat down on the floor and for some time contemplated my favourite still-life on the opposite wall. After a few minutes my mood changed for the better and I regained my peace of mind. My heart grew light and I felt happy again.

Some of my friends and relatives couldn’t understand, to say nothing of approve of such light-minded behaviour on my part. But I never ever, not for one second, regretted that.

Eventually, we bought a nice cosy settee for our living-room.

But neither its purchase nor its presence in my flat could give me as much pleasure or satisfaction as my lovely picture.

Perhaps, from a man’s point of view it looked like a very irresponsible and childish thing to do. But it made me feel so wonderful!

It gave me so much positive energy!

By the way, this picture is still hanging in my flat and still has a very positive, psychotherapeutic, bordering on magic, effect on me.

An effect that no settee in the world, no matter how stylish or expensive it might be, could ever give me.

And I can hardly imagine how I could live without those wonderful flowers before.

This episode is just one example to show that women’s emotions and feelings – our spiritual life – often runs away with us and easily takes the upper hand in the fight with reason and practical considerations.

Personally I don’t think there is anything wrong with that.

In fact, I believe that quite often it does us, women, a lot of good to listen to the wisdom of our heart rather than to the cold reason of our mind.

In the vast majority of cases women have better intuition than men.

We certainly have what is usually referred to as the elusive “sixth sense”.

The only problem is that some of us have lost the habit of listening to our heart, and what’s even worse – the habit of following its wise advice.

Try to remember how many times you heard that quiet voice inside you that told you to do something or warned you against doing something, but you didn’t listen, ignored this hardly-audible voice. And acted in accordance with reason, with the so-called common sense, as prompted by your ego.

Afterwards, post factum, we often realize our mistake, we understand that we shouldn’t have ignored the clue given to us.

But most of the time it is too late to change anything.

What is done cannot be undone.

And you can’t turn the clock backwards.

If you have lost the habit of listening to your heart, try to learn to do it again.

We are born with this natural gift.

It is a talent that we shouldn’t bury, otherwise we may lose it.

But don’t despair!

Fortunately, you cannot lose this ability altogether.

Like you can’t lose the skill of swimming or skating.

If you once knew how to do it you will never forget it.

All you have to do is plunge into the water or put on your skates and go on the ice.

And then the old skills that seem to have been irrevocably lost, will inevitably come back.

Listen yo your heart.

Remember its quiet voice.

Open the eyes and ears of your soul.

Grope for the lost link with your heart and your Guardian Angel and through him – with the spark of God inside you.

When you do that, a lot in your life will get back to normal or change for the better.

Well, this brings us to…

The second commandment of a happy woman:

Listen to your heart and do what it tells you!