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Why are there so many books about getting into relationships, maintaining them and improving them? About how to impress, how to seduce, how to have sex… We find only a few books, maybe no book at all, about how to end a relationship… True, there are heaps of books about the causes and the statistics of divorces, lots of legal advice, hundreds of tips about how to avoid a divorce and how to get over its consequences. But no one has written about the event, the actual break-up.

This book mainly deals with the end of a relationship between a man and a woman, whether short-lived or long-lived, regardless of whether one is officially married or not. Problems of this kind also occur with people of the same sex. And everything is quite the same in the case of other possible relationships.

We talk here about the true end of a relationship. Concerning problems of the official drawing up the document, registering the divorce and the juridical questions in connection with, other sources, such as lawyers and advisers should be consulted.

Marriage and human relations are not derogated here. Every relationship has its sunny side, but unfortunately also a darker one. And as relations come to an end due to this darker side, let us take a glimpse at it. Nothing, neither living together nor getting divorced, is completely good or bad.

It may even be that all marriages end with a kind of divorce. At the same time, nearly all adults get married, re-marry after a divorce.

Perhaps it is not even worth mentioning that in different cultures and at different times marriage and divorce have been understood very differently. There have been a variety of attitudes. Not to mention differences in individual attitudes.

Maybe it seems to you that in the relationships of men and women it is the men who mostly want to break up. Actually it is mostly the women who do and increasingly so with the increase in the educational level of women. This book, however, is meant for all people, men and women, who want to change their lives.

There are no common nor general solutions. People are different, and their relationships are different. But this small book can perhaps be of some help to everyone.

If there is nothing left to try, learn to say ‘good-bye’.