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When an Element is imbalanced, the capacities associated with it are diminished. A diminished capacity leads to certain sorts of experience. The descriptions below describe the kinds of things we might say if the Organ is imbalanced.

The descriptions are very general and could apply to us at any stage in our life. This could be anything from a pre-verbal infant to an adult who may well be reacting with mixed emotions rather than a simple state of mind. In the individual chapters, we will be giving more details and examples of these.

Element	Main Organ	Typical Negative Experiences When This Element is Weak
Fire	Heart	Hurt, abandonment, feeling unloved, people are not loving and warm, ‘Am I not lovable?’
Earth	Stomach and Spleen	Not going to be fed, others getting fed before me, not protected or held or supported, ‘No-one to look after me’.
Metal	Lung	Not recognized, acknowledged, ‘No-one knows I am here’, ‘Why do I feel that something is missing?’
Water	Kidney	Frightened and not reassured, ‘No-one tells me realistically that I’ll be safe’, ‘Can I trust?’
Wood	Liver	‘I feel angry, frustrated and violated’, ‘I’m no longer clear about what I want’, ‘I don’t know what’s right’.

The negative experiences which are associated with a weakness in one of our Elements will affect the development of our personality. A Fire type, for example, will have weak Heart energy and be more likely to have many early experiences which come under the general heading of ‘not feeling loved’ and ‘feeling unlovable’. It is easy then to develop a personality with habitual emotional states which reflect these experiences. These experiences frequently turn into beliefs, for instance, that ‘I am unlovable’. This in turn begins to create our experience of the world. For example, if I believe I am unlovable, then I do not truly accept the love of others as, after all, ‘I am unlovable’.

Experiences of not being loved can then lead a Fire type to develop various ways of coping. These could include:

Closing down to close relationships and moving more towards superficial, social or ‘party’ type relationships.

Being determined to maintain a close relationship at any cost with an overvaluing of any hint of warmth and affection.

Closing down to any close relationship but focusing on some other method of gaining warmth, e.g. being famous, successful, making others laugh.

Entering close relationships, being hurt or at least anticipating hurt, pulling away to safety, only to repeat the same pattern many times over.

Behind these behaviours is a reaction to the negative experiences which arose from the initial constitutional weakness. ‘I felt unloved, so in the future I will protect myself by …’. In each of the chapters on the types, we will look at these basic capacities and the negative experiences which can easily arise and in adulthood cause us emotional problems.