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The Director’s temperament type is sanguine.

The purpose of the Director’s life is making life comfortable.

You will forget about warped window frames, sticking of a front door lock and a leaking tap in the bathroom. He will fix everything. To do this, he always has all the required tools in a special case: a hammer, a screwdriver, an adjustable wrench, and whatnot.

The director has a high opinion of himself, maintains his dignity, and is always well dressed – he can wear stylish white clothes even at home.

He never talks nonsense. If he is not familiar with a topic, he would rather stay silent.

In a professional field, this type does not necessarily become the director of an organization, but he certainly performs some functions associated with management or control. He can be a chief accountant, a personnel department head, a restaurant chef, an auditor, a crew foreman, a luggage room manager…

Whoever this man is by training and position, he probably understands something related to building construction, car repair, and banking operations – at least to the extent that no one could cheat him in these important spheres of life.

The Director behaves the way he does because he wants to live in decent conditions, to drive without breakdowns or accidents, and to have financial reserves!

If you’re married to such a person, congratulations! Financial problems are unlikely to bother you. However, you may hear about them all the time from your husband – the Director.

The Director is usually impressed by grand-looking people riding in expensive cars, especially if they have bodyguards around them. This can be used by swindlers. Fake businessmen or state officials can pull the wool over his eyes so that he will agree to give them a large sum of money in exchange for a lucrative contract or a high position in the city administration. The more brazen the lie, the more credible it seems to be to him!

Why? The Director’s weak point is poorly developed intuition. He is not used to digging into his own emotions or scrutinizing other people’s ideas. He has no free time for that! The man is too busy to pay attention to someone’s facial expressions, gestures and intonation. Other people are important to him from the functional point of view, as they help or hamper in achieving his goals. If their actions seem to be logical and useful to him, he is eager to cooperate. He does not feel that he might be fooled! However, to achieve success, the swindlers must be experts in their field, because the Director has a habit of rechecking any information. He sorts out data much better than emotions!

His health comes first. Nobody likes to be ill, but the Director considers any illness a big inconvenience, because he not only has to incur additional expenses for treatment, but also has to change his work plans. It depresses him even more than high temperature. Therefore, he tries to avoid diseases by eating healthy food and doing sports regularly.

The Director only pays attention to practical information that is useful not for the world in general, but personally for him, his family and work.

Unlike the Scriptwriter, he will not think over the migration of seals, discovery of new galaxies, breakthroughs in robotics or elections in Venezuela if all of this has no direct connection with his life.

But he will definitely watch the South American Football Championship if his boss is interested in football. This will allow him to make small talk with the man during his lunch break. He remembers very well that friendship with the boss is a prerequisite for a successful career!

What about a relationship with a woman?

At first, the Director may seem to be a bright, friendly and generous person who can do many impulsive things to attract your attention, and even risk his life for no actual reason. That is a wrong impression. He just knows how lovers behave. He read about it in books, saw it in movies and on TV. He does what he must, in his estimation, to meet a woman’s expectations.

The Director has real passions, but they do not make him irrational. He just lets himself express his feelings when he considers it appropriate. He is willing to pay a high price for the happiness of being with you – but not too high.

Yes, he can send you a great bouquet of roses, but only for a reasonable price. He will never sell his house to buy a yacht if living in a yacht is your dream, not his.

The Director is a serious and thrifty person. Before committing any “impulsive” acts, he will carefully calculate all the consequences!

Get ready for the fact that some time after the wedding, you will begin receiving a lot of instructions from him on how to behave and what to do. The Director likes to command. Giving orders to others is his natural state of existence.

Of course, he can get a clean towel out of the closet, wipe the table with a rag, or make coffee himself. But why should he do it if you are within reach? He has more important things to do. Why don’t you put off your petty chores and do what he asks? He is absolutely sure that would be good for both of you.

By the way, he does not know how to ask politely. His requests, even if the magic word “please” was in them, strangely sound like military orders. When you demand, “Watch your tone,” the Director looks perplexed: “what’s wrong?” He is sure he did not insult you! He did not even raise his voice!

Your attempts to show him how to express requests politely will lead to nothing. When you say, “Pass me the napkin,” your words sound tenderly and are pleasant to the ear, even if there is no “magic” word. The Director may try to copy your intonations, but the result will be inadequate. The phrase will sound either like a military command again, or a caricature.

Do not crumple the napkin requested by the Director to throw it in his face. He is not an Actor, and will never be one. Do not demand the impossible from him! You both have to adapt to each other.

Feelings of a loved one, unlike those of strangers, do matter to the Director – at least, those that he was able to notice. He will try to make you happy in what he considers important. For example, he may buy the furniture set that you liked, or repaint the house walls if you want another color.

But more often than naught, he himself knows what is best, and may ignore your requests. He will not change a chandelier if he believes that it fits in the living room perfectly. He will never put your piano in the living room if you are a doctor or a lawyer, and not a music teacher. The explanation will be simple: “I don’t wanna listen to ‘Chopsticks’ all day!”

It is impossible to compel the Director to do something against his will. If you persist, he will resist further, and you might have a row with him. Not understanding your logic, he can come to the conclusion that you are foolish. Does a foolish person have the right to give orders? Of course not. The Director will be firmly convinced that he has to make decisions himself without consulting you.

This man admires bright, strong-willed, successful, self-confident women, but wants you to be homely, modest, taciturn and obedient. It is hard to be all in one. Is it worth trying?

Yes, it is.

If you manage to adapt to the Director (and he to you), then you will feel as safe as houses with him.

He will make your home comfortable, good-looking and safe enough to endure any wind or earthquakes. He will keep the interior and exterior clean and in order, and expect the same actions from you.

You will develop a stable and trusting relationship. The fuss and turmoil of this world will be left out! Your marriage will resemble a large ocean liner, which confidently floats on the waves of life, overcoming any storms easily.

The only danger that could threaten it is a perfect calm. That is, a monotonous life that generates boredom. What if the Director wants to have a good time with other women?

Don’t worry: if you have coped with all the previous problems, you will find a solution to this one, too.