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The Actor’s temperament type is choleric.

He is sure that the world was created just for one single purpose, to applaud his ingenious performance.

The Actor is energetic, active and optimistic. He is a holiday man!

Where can you meet such a wonder? Most likely, on a real holiday like a birthday party, an anniversary, or a wedding – at places where people come to relax, chat, and have fun.

How can you identify the Actor if everyone is trying to seem relaxed and witty? That’s easy! It is simply impossible to overlook him.

The Actor will certainly be in the spotlight. For example, he will perform the duties of a toastmaster or seize the initiative from the one who has already been appointed toastmaster – and he will do so naturally.

The Actor does not make any special efforts to stand out. He just can’t behave in a different way! Why?

A gathering of people activates his nervous system, causing a mental uplift close to euphoria. Every cell of his absorbs the energy of others, as if recharging from it.

Does that mean that the Actor is an energy vampire?

No! On the contrary, he is a donor! Amplifying the received impulses, he sends them back to people. He is not able to sit in a far corner and isolate himself from others. He wants to talk, to evoke smiles and laughter, and to surprise and delight everyone!

Alas, life consists not only of holidays. People spend much of their time at work, which also applies to the Actor. But he is unlikely to be found among employees of archives, libraries or account department – places where diligence and concentration are required. He is most likely a sales manager, guide, journalist or actor at a theater.

The Actor is attracted by novelties, so he rearranges his furniture every three months. Each time, he says this is the best positioning he has ever seen.

The Actor loves traveling. He will spare no time or effort if the adventure promises to be exciting. He will ride a quad bike through the swamps, climb a mountain, and fly a paraglider off a canyon. There are no spectators who would applaud him and shout “bravo,” but that is why he took a camera with him! As soon as he has access the Internet, everyone including friends, relatives and colleagues will see his adventures. The whole world will! “You are a hero!” his boss will say in surprise, before offering him a higher position.

That’s how the Actor thinks. And he is very surprised when his expectations are not fulfilled. He feels upset for a short time, but then finds a logical explanation: the swamps were not swampy enough, and the mountain should have been a little higher. Okay, next time he will choose a better route. Then everyone will be delighted for sure!

Money is not a top priority for the Actor. Most of all, he craves recognition and praise for what he does at work. He constantly struggles for quick development within the company, putting forward new ideas and fighting those who are lazy, incompetent or silly.

If his behavior suits his superiors, the Actor receives his portion of glory – most often, a very small one.

A boss’s condescending smile and an approving pat on the shoulder are enough for him. With that, he can move mountains!

But if the Actor’s activity inadvertently hampers the life of a key figure in an organization (usually the Scriptwriter or the Director), he gets into trouble. The superiors start finding faults with him and penalize him for trivial things, like arriving late for work by two minutes. Not understanding the root of the problem, the Actor tries to work even harder and prove his point in arguments with co-workers and supervisors, expressing a lot of emotions and straining his nerves. He does not notice that his initiatives only make the situation worse.

In the end, the Actor gets tired of the struggle. He leaves the job and enjoys the freedom. “Why did I suffer so long?” he thinks. “Why didn’t I quit this filthy office earlier? There are many others in the world where my talents will certainly be appreciated!”

The Actor can harbor such illusions for years until he realizes that the problem is within him. To others, he seems to be a boaster, a clown, an adventurer, a shallow person not adapted for life. His energy and enthusiasm are used by more balanced types as long as they benefit from him.

When the Actor realizes this fact, he has a chance to correct his behavior to finally find his permanent place in the sun.

How does the Actor develop relations with women? What can you expect from him?

His nature is exposed in this aspect of life, too. Unlike the Director, you will never get bored with him. He is able to accept your weirdest plan and begin to implement it immediately. For example, he will agree to travel three hundred miles right now to a pop star concert if this is your favorite pop star. He might not even like pop music, but he loves adventures! With the Director, the answer would be negative. He would say that he had completely different plans for the evening (like going to the gym or surfing the Internet at home) and you should have articulated your desire the day before yesterday, or even better last week so that he could estimate its worth and feasibility.

The Actor is good company. Unlike the Scriptwriter, he does not have encyclopedic knowledge, but all his stories are vivid, full of emotions and therefore memorable.

But he is not able to give out energy endlessly. Although his activity can last several hours in a row, fatigue and apathy inevitably come. The fireworks end. The Actor needs to lie down and sleep to regain vigor. He cannot live and work evenly like the Director or Scriptwriter. His nervous system is different.

At such a time, it is better to leave him alone. If you start telling him about your problems and he starts snoring, you need to check yourself to ensure you are not offended. His seeming disinterest is not his attitude towards you, but his physiology. Repeat your story again when he wakes up. You will get the emotional response you were counting on.

The Actor’s mood can change rapidly. He easily switches from thoughtfulness to activity, from nervousness to relaxation. He gets annoyed quickly, but just as quickly calms down. The most ordinary joke can cause him to burst out laughing (the Scriptwriter and Director would only smile in response, the first one more likely out of politeness).

The Actor strives to be a man of his word, but this does not always work. He truly believes in his promises the moment he gives them, but halfway, can be distracted. His attention switches to a new amazing object or event, and the promise completely slips from his mind.

For example, the Actor arrives home in the evening without having bought the shampoo and mosquito repellent you asked for that morning. This is not because he does not love you. He was distracted, that’s all!

But when he is ready, he will immediately turn around and rush in search of the thing you need. When he returns with the shampoo or repellent, he will expect praise from you. And he’ll be terribly offended if you don’t give it to him!

In general, praise is the main thing that he wants from you (apart from sex, of course). You can cook him a delicious dinner, wash his clothes, and wipe dust off of his computer, save him from mosquitoes… Everything will be wasted if you are not enthusiastic about his heroic deed – after all, he traveled to nine stores in no time and found “your shampoo” in the tenth one!

The Actor is not punctual. If he says, “Come outside, I’ll drive up in a minute,” do not rush. For him, a minute is a loose concept. His “minute” can last six seconds or a quarter of an hour. It is useless to make a fuss over this. He sincerely promises to “never be late again,” but quickly breaks his promise unintentionally. No doubt his reason will be compelling: “The bridge collapsed.” Or, “My boss called me up to his office.”

The Actor is able to arrive on time – for example, at work – if a registration terminal is installed at the entrance. But it is not easy for him. He puts on clothes in a hurry, drives a car violating traffic laws and gets into his office a second before being late. Needless to say, this can lead to his nervous exhaustion over time!

Since the Actor is always in a hurry, he has no time to put things in their place. Every morning he rushes about the house, opening all of the cabinets in search of his shirts and socks. The search is simplified by the fact that things fall out of there themselves, because the shelves are stuffed with random items! His money, keys, and driver’s license can also be anywhere – on the fridge, on a bathroom shelf, in the folds of the sofa.

Putting things in order demands great volitional effort on his part. His desire to tidy up the house can be caused by an emotional impulse with a vow he made to “stop this mess once and for all,” or by the news that some guests are coming around. However, the Actor is able to clean his entire home in five minutes to avoid shame and receive praise!!

To sum up, the Actor is unbalanced, boastful and disorderly, but at the same time energetic, optimistic and witty.

He would not succeed in remaking himself from the Actor into the Director or Scriptwriter even if he wanted to, as the role type is inherent nature from birth, but he can still correct and direct his behavior. Someone should explain to him why and how it should be done if he does not know himself.