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Detachment

And this the burthen of his song, For ever us’d to be, I care for nobody, not I, If no one cares for me.

ISAAC BICKERSTAFFE

c. 1735–1812

DETACHING ONESELF from a situation may seem difficult, but it is sometimes necessary to do this in order to avoid confrontation. However, to detach oneself when someone else is in need can be callous and inhumane. If you wish to do this then you must remove yourself from the situation altogether, to lessen the hurt that would be felt by others because of your actions.

At some time or another, everyone will find themselves on the receiving end of this kind of treatment. Unfortunately life is like that! There is no preparation, but knowing that it can happen will lessen the impact it has if it happens to you. But be mindful, the person who detaches themselves from somebody in need will find that they have destroyed a trust that can never be reclaimed.

Visualisation: You have been asked to support a close friend who is in need. Knowing that it will interfere with your own life, you think about it before making a decision. Then a small voice in your head asks you to reverse the situation. It could be you in trouble. How would you feel if your friend detached themselves from you on this issue? The emotions welling up inside you are the same feelings that your friend is having at this moment. You know what your answer will be.