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When I was going through my divorce, I spent three years focusing on all the things I didn’t have. Three precious frikkin years manifesting a shitball of badness. And that’s all I got. Stress, worry, financial loss, crappy dates, awful fallouts, and tears like Tiny Tears on acid! Crying, moaning, hysteria, drama on a loop that went on and on and on. It wasn’t until I realized one day that I was surrounding myself, and just about everyone else that came into contact with me, with endless negativity that something had to change, or my life was going to be this hellhole existence forever. I was going to die in a pool of black sludge called self‐pity!

I rarely have any regrets in my life. I feel like everything I have ever done, good, bad, funny, naughty, ecstatic, sad, horrid, lovely, has all been one big learning curve leading to now. But I really do regret wasting three solid years of my life on something that could have been resolved in a calmer and more pleasant way, and possibly much more quickly. I am, by my own admission, a very ‘passionate being’. When I feel that I, or my family, have been betrayed or wronged, or that someone has behaved unjustly, I’m very unlikely to let that pass. As I mature, the ‘passion’ or the ‘fire’ is lessening, or perhaps I am simply more reasonable. These days I am far more grounded and try with true empathy to see situations from all angles. Now I listen to friends who sadly find themselves in the situation that I was in and try to advise them how little the small things matter and not to enter into the fight. But it’s their journey to learn from, so they may or may not be ready to listen. It’s the same when it comes to health. We cannot force, persuade, or dictate to anyone about getting their health back on track. Even those who can easily avoid suffering may not be ready to hear what you have to say.

The second law of attraction is the law of magnetism. Meaning that we can only attract the same kind of energy that we put out about ourselves. Our personal energy moves outwards from us and connects with others of like resonance, which, according to The Secret, determines both who and what we attract to ourselves in life. The people and situations that are drawn into our lives match our signals. Is it chemistry? Or more of a resonance, a matching signal due to personal vibrations? It’s a harsh reality, but if you don’t like the society, partners, friends, or success that you have attracted so far, or you have found real difficulty in finding your ‘place’ in the life that you desire, you will seriously need to consider what you are putting on your calling card to the world. I guess the good news is that since this frequency is something you produce yourself, it’s definitely something that you can change. Your personal resonance is created through your vibrations and your feelings and your emotional energy. It’s also crucial to change the vibrations of the very thoughts that go through your head every day if you know they are negative. Just because other people can’t hear what you are thinking, doesn’t mean you are not emitting them. Your physical energy and the vibrations of your body are crucial because us humans can pick up instinctively on how we think someone is feeling. Negative thinking is usually based on three fears:

1 Fear of the future: Even though it hasn’t happened yet, so logically why should we be afraid?

2 Fear of rejection: That inner voice that says we are not good enough, unlovable, not clever enough, etc.

3 Fear of failure: Why bother trying, right? We will just fail anyway.

Even as you say all this to yourself, you can feel your body sinking, can’t you? All fear is toxic to the energy of achievement, so it’s clear that when we think this way, we are creating our very own self‐fulfilling prophecy of doom. These negative thoughts destroy optimism and are our greatest challenge to overcome in reaching genuine happiness.

The other laws of attraction include unwavering desire, which is your constant and unwavering passion for a certain outcome. In other words, your total belief that this is what will happen. And the law of delicate balance, the law of harmony, the law of right action … in other words, making things happen in order to achieve your goals. So, for example, not taking action in the right direction for your nutritional goals would be … you have a sore throat and a cold and you feel terrible. To boost your immune system you could juice ginger, lime, oranges, cucumber, and garlic three times a day until your body has soaked that up and feels better again. But instead you choose to eat fast food, drink two bottles of wine, and feel shocking the next day, making your body even more tired and toxic, giving you five days feeling miserable in bed! You see how your choices and actions can seriously affect your outcome.

The final law of the universe is far greater and more powerful than just you, but equally as important for achieving happiness. Understanding that we are all ‘One’ with each other and the entire universe is the foundation law. I am a believer in karma and living a good life that you are open about and proud of. Speaking your truth sets you free and trusting your own desires makes you who you are. The long and short of this is that every area of your life, including your health, your finances, and your relationships, is influenced by ‘like’ attracts ‘like’. Everything you may want or not want to experience is pure energy vibrating at different frequencies. The basic premise of the law of attraction is that energy attracts like energy. Whatever you are vibrating out there to the world, you get right back. Things that you long for or desire will not come to you until you are sending out the right vibrations for that to happen. So, don’t blame, simply change. Change your thoughts, your visions, your mindset, your negative chatter, your beliefs, your needs … and see what happens.

The more we, as human beings, understand about the way we work, what we need, and how things unbalance us the better equipped we are at really making a difference to our lives, our health, and our overall well‐being. Not only does this understanding have an impact on our own minds and bodies, it also helps us to understand and have more empathy for others.