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What is the person's family like? What significant events occurred in the person's past that would leave you doubtful of a successful marriage? Was the person a drug addict right before you met? Did the person quit drinking or doing drugs in order to be accepted by you? What does your observation of the family tell you about the person (consider you will be marrying into that family)? The answers to these questions are clues or information that you can use later when you decide whether or not you want to pursue the relationship for marriage any further.

I am trying to emphasize the importance of knowing the environment that your potential spouse came from. Know something about the family. Know your mate's relationship with his or her family and immediate past. Having this information can help you plan on building a strong relationship before and after the marriage.

I believe that there should be some understanding between the two families. Why is this important? The family that you grew up in has a great influence on the way you operate. Therefore, if you operate one way and your "friend" operates another then many days of misunderstanding and miscommunications are waiting for you. Understanding family dynamics helps to ensure that both of you operate in a similar manner.