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You must realize that you are looking for a spouse and that spouse will be with you for the rest of your life. Therefore, you should take special care in entering a relationship with anyone. The union between a man and a woman is not merely a physical one. There should be compatibility between the two that indicates the possibility of a successful marriage. Good looks and good sex will not lead to a successful and prosperous life together in marriage. Do not let sexual or psychological infatuations or romantic delusions lead you to get married. This may lead to a very unhappy marriage.

The Bible tells us that the husband and the wife form one flesh (Genesis 2:24). Simply getting married does not form this one flesh. There must be an oneness or unity between the two of you. This means that the two has to be compatible. What is this compatibility?

2 Corinthians 6:14 through 2 Corinthians 6:15 (NKJ): Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteous with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever.

I choose the New King James Version of the Bible because I really liked the way this scripture was worded, which is consistent with the actual meaning. Basically, two people should be compatible before they enter into a binding relationship whether that relationship is marriage, friendship, or business partner.

The best, if not only, way to determine compatibility is to inquire and observe. Ask questions and observe how your "friend" behaves and responds to situations. What church does he or she attend and what clubs does he or she belong to. Answers to these and similar probing questions will greatly help you determine compatibility. It is a fact that if you are yourself, you will not have to lie about yourself. Stop pretending to be something that you are not to get something or someone that you really do not need or want. Be honest with yourself and you will be surprised how well things work out.