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Another helpful role of the counsellor is to help you, if you feel you need to, face and plan for the worst-case scenario that could happen. You can then spend much less time worrying and fantasizing about it, and get on with creating a different, much more positive reality. This may mean that you choose to use some of your early sessions with your counsellor thinking about how you would feel, and what would need to happen if everything went really badly.

If you do this, the level of detail that you go into is up to you, but it could involve thinking right through the practicalities of whether you have made a will, what financial resources are available for your dependants, who would care for them if you were unable to, and how you would like to be cared for if you become disabled and dependent. You can even go into the details of where you would like to die and what kind of funeral you would like to have. This will inevitably force you to face your feelings and beliefs about death, so you may also need the help of a spiritual advisor. This may sound extremely grim, but most people who have employed this head-on approach have found it tremendously liberating. Paradoxically, any step you take in the direction of both healing old wounds and preparing to let go of life will enable you to live all the more fully. This, in turn, will enhance your energy, vitality and health and, consequently, the chances of stabilizing your disease.