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The proportion of crus (penis under the skin) to exposed penis can cause variations in the direction that a penis points during an erection. Men with a shorter crus, and thus a longer penis, are more likely to have an erection that points downward, while an erect penis that has a longer crus will probably point outward, or even straight up.

Occasionally, a man tells me that he is concerned because his penis points in a certain direction when it is erect. As you can see from Frank’s situation in the following case study, this phenomenon isn’t unusual. Some men have a more pronounced curve than others, and sometimes the penis also bends to the left or to the right.

 Frank

 When Frank came to see me, we spent half an hour talking without broaching the real reason for his visit. He admitted that he didn’t go out with women, but he blamed that on all sorts of things that didn’t make sense to me. I could feel that more was bothering him than he was letting on, and I told him straight out that I thought he wasn’t being truthful with me. That’s when he told me that he was afraid of dating women because, if he got close enough to them to have sex, they would notice that his penis was misshapen.

 Because I’m not a medical doctor, I don’t examine patients, but I did ask him to describe for me what his penis looked like. He said that, when he had an erection, instead of sticking straight out, as did the erect penises he’d seen in some porn videos, his penis had a very large curve in it. To me, his description seemed to be within the bounds of normalcy, but I sent him to a urologist to make sure.

 When I next saw him, he was a new man. The urologist had confirmed what I had thought, and knowing that he wasn’t going to be made fun of gave him the confidence to start dating. The next time I heard from Frank, about a year later, he called to tell me that he was engaged.

Because I’m not a medical doctor, my first piece of advice if you feel that your penis has an abnormal shape is to go to a urologist to make certain that this curvature doesn’t indicate some problem.

In the vast majority of cases, the curve falls well within the norms of most men, and the concern is just a case of sexual ignorance. In other words, the man doesn’t know that most penises are curved to some extent. Once in a while, a man does have a more pronounced curve than most. Even the majority of these men don’t have a problem in bed, although a few may have to adjust the positions they use. In some cases, however, a man may have Peyronie’s disease, a condition that can make sex impossible (although, rest assured, in most cases the disease goes away on its own after a short while, as I discuss in Chapter 22).

In any case, this problem is mostly in the minds of the men who come to me with concerns about the appearance of their erect penises. Because they believe that their penises look unusual, they are afraid to date. They worry that, when the time comes to undress, their partner will react negatively.

You have one simple way to avoid worrying about how a new partner will react to the shape of your penis, and this applies to the vast majority of other doubts that people have about their sexual abilities: Wait until you have established a strong relationship before you have sex with somebody. I don’t say you have to get married, but you will find the experience of making love much better if you are in love and you integrate sex as an expression of your love rather than as a form of recreation.

So, whether your penis looks like a boomerang or is straight as an arrow, remember that the three little words “I love you” are far more important to your lover than the direction in which your penis points.