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Foreword

Dr. Stone and I share a wonderful distinction: we are both professional huggers. A hug is powerful and has the ability to turn every interaction into an opportunity for achieving profound richness. I chose the word richness instead of another word you might have expected—riches. Some of the richest people I’ve met are really the most deprived, because their financial abundance spotlights the lack of love and connection they feel. On the other hand, simple people who love and support each other often forget their financial lack in favor of a deeper, richer abundance—one where hugs are natural, welcomed, and often transformative.

When I heard about this amazing book, I practically jumped out of my seat. The benefits of this simple practice are at last being extolled by a man who not only appreciates its power, but has been personally transformed by it. Who other than “The Hug Doctor”™ and founder of Hug Therapy™ could have written it, and in a way that can benefit anyone? The stories, insights, and tools Dr. Stone shares help us see ourselves and the ways we’ve either neglected the simple power of hugging or welcomed it. When was the last time you walked up to a stranger and asked if they needed a hug? If you’ve ever taken such a risk, you likely discovered something interesting—that a good number of the people you ask will accept your offer. And who knows where a single, meaningful hug might lead, especially for someone who feels disconnected or isolated. A warm hug just might change the world!

I’ve had the chance to travel to many of the world’s biggest hotspots, and I didn’t hold back the hugs. I remember when I visited Iraq for the first time in 1998. The country was isolated from the rest of the world, and welcoming an American Peace Troubadour seemed an unlikely solution. What did I do? I hugged as many people as I could, and though custom required I limit my hugs to men, even that rule was broken several times when it felt appropriate. The people I embraced lit up and accepted my affection, though I’m sure it was a great surprise for most of them. By the time I left Iraq, a true bond had been created with many of the people I met, and I wouldn’t be surprised if that bond rippled through the streets of Baghdad.

The power of a hug was shown to me again not long after apartheid ended in South Africa. I was invited to meet with the leaders of several gangs running the streets of Cape Town. From the beginning, I wondered what I would say to them—what impact I could have on such violent men I could never truly relate to. When the men arrived, I spoke for a few minutes, then took out my guitar and began singing the Prayer of St. Francis—“Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.” When the meeting was finished, a tall, dangerous looking man approached me and asked if we could speak privately. I said yes, and he led me away from the group to a spot where we could speak alone. I felt my heart begin to race, wondering why he needed such privacy. When he finally stopped and turned around, I noticed tears running down his cheeks. “I’ve killed as many as five men in one day,” he said, “and even though I don’t know how to live the way you described, I want it.” We looked at each other and something seemed to lock into place. As if on cue our arms opened, and we fell together into one of the most beautiful hugs I’ve ever experienced. I don’t know how long we stood there, but I felt something change in him. Maybe the hug we shared created the opening he needed to make a new choice. I don’t know, but I believe it’s possible.

And I believe the possibilities of transforming ourselves and each other within the energy of a hug is real.

So why hold back? That’s the real message of this book. Dr. Stone has done the world a great service by sharing his keen, clinical, pioneering perspective, and I truly believe that if you give a hug the time it deserves—then put it into practice—you will agree. It may be one of the simplest and most effective ways we have of breaking down boundaries and creating peace—and I mean that quite literally. My suggestion is to test it out for yourself. One of the biggest discoveries you’ll make is that you will get as much out of the practice as the person you’re offering the hug to. Isn’t that the way it should be?

I could go on and on, but I really want you to get to Dr. Stone’s masterpiece. He’s the expert, not me. All I can say is that you wouldn’t have been guided to this book unless you were ready for it, unless you realized that your hugs are powerful beyond belief. So keep turning the pages until you feel a light turn on inside you, then go give a few hugs and see what happens.

James Twyman

New York Times bestselling author of The Moses Code

April 19, 2019