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Usually, when a child has a serious problem, such as autism or Asperger’s disorder, the parents or pediatrician have spotted it early on. Autistic infants do not smile, imitate facial expressions, follow a pointing finger with their eyes, or mouth the syllables of language. At two or three they have little interest in others or responses to others’ needs and feelings. They apparently do not wish to communicate and do not engage in imaginary play, as far as we know. This is all very different from the behavior of an HSC, who is eager to communicate except when very overstimulated. High sensitivity is found in about 20 percent of the population; autism affects two to four children in ten thousand, and three quarters of them are boys. One is a normal variation, the other is a true disorder.

Asperger’s syndrome affects about one in five hundred children and is five times more common in boys. Such children often exhibit motor problems, such as strange postures, gestures not matching their speed, awkwardness, poor rhythm, and unreadable handwriting. An HSC during the stress of an examination might show poor coordination but not the other symptoms. Children with Asperger’s do seem to wish to communicate, but do so very poorly because they apparently lack an intuitive understanding of how to listen and when to talk. They cannot take hints, understand irony, keep secrets, or decipher facial expressions. They often talk monotonously on a subject no one else is interested in. None of this is true of a normal HSC.

The reason there is sometimes confusion here is that children with autism or Asperger’s are usually very highly sensitive to sensory input. But again, they are not sensitive to social input, or at least not in an adaptive way, which makes them very, very different from HSCs. I do not believe that HSCs are on some normal end of an “autistic spectrum,” although that argument has been made. A better description of children on the more normal end of the autistic spectrum would be those who are socially “odd”—eccentric, pedantic, or emotionally remote.

Again, normal children, HSCs included, are born ready and eager to relate; they are programmed for it. As we will see in Chapter 6, they are probably already emotionally responsive to their mother even in the womb; children with these other disorders are not.