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We know this is hard to accept. We’ve heard it all – every rationalization imaginable used to avoid having to confront this unpleasant truth: he said he was going to call at the end of the last date, but didn’t. Now you’re sure it’s because you didn’t smile or talk enough, or you talked too much. You didn’t thank him for dinner. You ordered the most expensive dish and now he thinks you’re after his money.

Or he hasn’t called because he’s busy, or he’s going through something with his father or ex-wife. Business is rough and that’s why he hasn’t called.

He thought you didn’t have a good time on the last date, so he didn’t call.

He hasn’t called because he lost your number.

We can come up with 100 reasons why a man didn’t call. But the bottom line is, if he hasn’t called, he’s not that interested.

We’re not saying he doesn’t like you or that you didn’t have a great date or that you’re not on his mind sometimes, but if he hasn’t actually dialled your number, how interested can he be?

If you have to call him to remind him you exist, something is wrong. Then, if you pursue him and he ever marries you, you’ll have to remind him it’s your birthday or your wedding anniversary or call him at work to get his attention. You might have to initiate sex and holidays. You’ll always have to be the one to call the travel agent because he may think about holidays, but he never gets around to calling. Things are the way they are! This is not the kind of relationship a Rules girl wants to get involved in.

So don’t waste time analysing what you may have done to discourage him from calling. Let it go. No matter what the reason, if he doesn’t call, it’s next!