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On the first three dates, you showed up and acted sweet. On the fourth date, you can show more of yourself. You can talk about your feelings, as long as you don’t get too heavy, or play therapist or mother. Exhibit warmth, charm and heart. If his dog died or his football team lost, express sympathy. Look into his eyes, be attentive and a good listener so that he knows you are a caring human being – a person who would make a supportive wife. Still, don’t mention words like marriage, wedding, kids, or the future. Those are subjects for him to bring up. He must take the lead. Talk about something outside your relationship, like your favourite sport, TV show, a great movie, the novel you just finished, an interesting article from the Spectator or a good museum exhibition you just saw. You get the idea!

Don’t tell him what your astrologist, nutritionist, personal trainer, shrink or yoga instructor think about your relationship with him.

Don’t tell him what a mess you were before you met him.

Don’t tell him he’s the first man to treat you with respect. He’ll think you’re a loser or a tramp.