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Finally, the invalidating environment tells emotionally sensitive people that their problems are easy to solve. “Oh, just calm down. That’s what I do,” a parent might tell an emotionally sensitive adolescent. Whereas this may be easy for the parent, it might not be for the child. When people who are emotionally sensitive and, according to the biosocial theory, have a biologically hard-wired temperament or disposition toward being emotionally vulnerable, they have a relatively low threshold for responding to factors in the environment that are emotionally arousing.

It would be like a child having been born with a peanut allergy and being sensitive to peanuts in the environment. Telling the child not to have a reaction to peanuts would ignore what the child’s biology is. Similarly, telling a person with emotional sensitivity not to have the reaction they are having ignores their neurobiology.

When other people ignore, dismiss, or punish emotionally sensitive people’s reaction or oversimplify the ease of coping or solving the problem they are experiencing, over time that person is left without adaptive coping mechanisms. Instead, they turn to quickly executable and often self-destructive ways of coping, including behaviors such as self-harm and drug use.