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Another aspect to perspective-taking is to consider another person’s point of view when you feel that you’ve been wronged by them. The DBT skill that is taught to move a person from an emotion-minded response to a wise-minded response is the THINK skill. This is typically used in a situation where there is an active disagreement between two people. Here’s how it works:

 Think: Think about the situation from the other person’s perspective. How might they be interpreting the situation, including your words and actions? If you put yourself in the other person’s shoes and hear what you’re saying, what would you imagine?

 Have empathy: What might the other person be feeling or thinking? Are they afraid of your aggression? Are they sad, feeling that you’re drifting apart? Are they feeling misunderstood?

 Interpretations: Can you consider alternative interpretations or explanations for the person’s behavior? Make a list of alternative explanations, including positive or good reasons as to why the person responded in the way they did.

 Notice: Try to reflect on how the other person has been trying to improve the situation. Notice attempts by the other person to be helpful and notice how they may themselves be struggling in their life in the present moment.

 Kindness: In considering the perspective of another person, remember to be kind toward them in the way that you would hope that someone would be kind to you.