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You focus your attention on what’s most important to you at an unconscious level — which might objectively be the most important. This is the unconscious driving force, or underlying motivation. It isn’t easy at first glance to detect what lies behind this force, especially not in yourself. The question, however, is how are you supposed to be able to see something that’s unconscious — a mental blind spot? How do you recognize the unconscious driving force behind an automatic habit? Start by looking in the mirror — the mirror represented by the boxes in Table 4-3 — and ask these questions:

 Is there a box, or boxes, in which you (strongly) recognize yourself?

 Are there boxes in which you don’t recognize yourself that you can exclude from the start?

TABLE 4-3: Where Do You Focus Your Attention?

I focus on others — their plans, wishes, and points of view or anything else that distracts me; on keeping the peace; and on (not) being seen.	I focus on having power and control, fighting (in)justice, protecting others (all or nothing, the truth), and being able to gain or grant respect.	I focus on attractiveness in the future or in the past, elements of my life that I’m missing or separated from, desire and connectedness, and not being rejected.
I focus on the wishes and needs of others, being needed, being attentive and available, reciprocating, and being nice to others.	I focus on distinguishing between right and wrong, determining what can be improved and what has to stay the same, and being clear, careful, and responsible.	I focus on achieving a goal, carrying out efficient solutions, making myself invaluable to others, being the best person I can be, seeing myself through the eyes of others, and gaining the recognition I deserve.
I focus on rational solutions; knowledge to be gained; and facts, analyses, and (hidden) expectations that others may have of me, my time, and my energy.	I focus on what can go wrong or pose a danger; on drawbacks, risks, and secret plans; and on whom I can trust.	I focus on interesting, appealing, and positive ideas, options, possibilities, and projects; on fascinating concepts; and on any new beginning.