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The rule of threes refers to the forces that are part of all processes. In many spiritual traditions, this rule is considered one of the universal laws of the cosmos, similar to Newton’s third law of motion: For every action in nature, there is an equal and opposite reaction. The natural sciences define force as “everything that can change the speed of a body.” The forces themselves are invisible, but humans experience their effect. Forces also have the energy to accomplish and complete something — to change the speed of a body, for example. As humans, we are part of the cosmos, so the universal laws also apply to us. Gurdjieff claims that each phenomenon is the result of three forces, but that nowadays people perceive and recognize only two of these laws. As examples of the two forces we know — forces that illustrate quite well our polar way of thinking — he cites the pairs negative-positive, action-reaction, male-female, yin-yang. Gurdjieff, for his part, thinks that a third force is always needed to bring anything into being.

Assume that two people have a difference of opinion. One shouts out “No!” while the other shouts “Yes!” If no third force intervenes, they will continue to shout “No! Yes! No! Yes!” because they’re stuck in their positions. Nothing can set them in motion. And, as a result, nothing changes. Now suppose that a third person joins them, who neutralizes the “No! Yes!” and, for example, offers a creative solution, one that is acceptable for both “No!” and “Yes!” Only then does something happen.

Let's see what all the shouting is about:

 Active force: active, positive, giving, male.

 Receptive force: passive, negative, receptive, female.

 Reconciling force: unifying, neutral, connecting, impartial.

Consider the famous Serenity Prayer:

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

You can find many versions of this prayer, though its origin and author are unclear. It’s attributed to many people, from the emperor/philosopher Marcus Aurelius (121-180 AD) to St. Francis of Assisi to Nelson Mandela. The most likely explanation is that it was written by the theologian Reinhold Niebuhr (1892-1971) between 1937 and 1943.

This prayer can also be considered an example of the rule of threes. Here the active force is “to change what I can change,” and the receptive force is “to accept what I cannot change.” You can probably imagine what these two refer to. The third force is the reconciling force of consciousness or awareness. You can only evaluate the first two forces to know which to apply when you place them side-by-side. Humans perceive light because there is darkness, and vice versa. They think in comparisons; you can see differences by placing contrasts next to each other. The third force is needed to find and perform the right action. Back to the prayer: If you can’t differentiate what you can and can’t change, neither can you decide what would be the right course of action (changing things or accepting them).

It’s helpful to research and recognize these three forces in themselves. If you want to keep developing but aren’t making progress, only one or two forces are likely working inside you. In Gurdjieff’s teaching, the desire for development is considered an active force, and the resistance of the ego (which doesn’t want development) or the dormant state of the normal mental condition is the passive force. If only these two are present, it’s true that nothing will change, exactly as in the “No! Yes!” argument. The resistance of the ego literally swallows up any energy there might be to become active. This leaves little energy left over for growth. Self-management can also be referred to as energy management. You can learn to manage your energy so that you have enough energy available for further development and spiritual growth. Gurdjieff offers interesting lessons for the West on this topic as well. He writes that, in this regard, the unconscious has as many holes as a sieve and lets people’s energy flow into all kinds of things. One example is speaking. It can be a leisurely activity, but also something that deprives you of a lot of energy. Have you ever experienced how tired you are after a phone call or a meeting? As if you were drained? According to Gurdjieff, you should see this as literally true. Is that bad? Not in itself, if speaking has brought you what you wanted. But have you also ever felt that you were completely exhausted and seen everything as a waste of time and energy?

Your energy is like money: You can only spend it once. Energy that was wasted on useless chatter is no longer available to you for more important things — for yourself, for your development, for the people you care about. If your development is important to you, you need energy management. There’s a good reason that the practice of many spiritual traditions includes being in silence. This allows you to return to yourself, save your energy, and recharge it.

Let's look one more time at the rule of threes. In the Enneagram, it’s pictured as a triangle linking Types 3, 6, and 9. Point 3 stands for the active, positive force; point 6, for the receptive, negative force; and point 9, for the neutralizing, connecting force. This also corresponds to the characters and energy forms of people with types 3, 6, and 9.

In anticipation of my discussion of the spiritual aspects of the Enneagram (see Chapter 17), I list the higher or sacred virtues of these three types in Figure 3-2: faith, hope, and love. It’s no coincidence that these virtues, praised by St. Paul in his First Letter to the Corinthians, are also an example of the rule of threes. (See? You've known about this rule of threes all along!)

FIGURE 3-2: The rule of threes.

For St. Paul, the virtues of faith, hope, and love stand for something greater than these three words usually do in everyday language. The higher virtue of love is the greatest of all virtues: It comes first for Type 9, where the circle begins and ends. The Enneagram instructor and Franciscan priest Richard Rohr considers the holy virtues as an invitation from God, an offer of the unifying power of love, an offer to become receptive to faith, and an offer to hope actively and positively.