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An internal ecology check is when you check with your own feelings that a course of action would be a wise one to follow. The ecology of your physical body is shown in your physical health. Your mental ecology is shown by your feelings of congruence or incongruence.

Incongruence is the feeling that the change has consequences that are uncertain (so you need more information), or are negative (so you need to think again). Incongruence is not bad, but you need to be aware of it and explore why you are feeling it.

For an internal ecology check the questions you need to ask are:

‘What are the wider consequences of my action?’

‘What will I lose if I make this change?’

‘What extra will I have to do?’

‘Is it worth it?’

‘What will I gain if I make this change?’

‘What is the price of making this change and am I willing to pay it?’

‘What are the good aspects of the present state?’

‘How can I keep those good aspects while making the change I want?’

Listen, feel and look carefully for your answers.

A typical incongruent response will be an uneasy feeling, usually in the stomach. A visual incongruence is often a sense of the pieces of a jigsaw puzzle not making sense. The classic incongruent phrase is ‘Yes, but . . .’

Sometimes when you do an ecology check, the unpleasant consequences may be very clear and you may need to rethink your outcome. Other times you may get an intuition that all is not well without being able to say exactly why. This intuition is an unconscious indication that the change is not completely ecological. Always pay attention to your intuitions and feelings of incongruence.