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Yes it was painful, but it was also quick, it was over soon. As George Harrison once said, “What’s that noise? I think there’s someone downstairs!” Not really only joking, it’s a bit of fun… As George Harrison once said, “All things must pass,” and this is an important thing to remember when you are in the middle of relationship problems: it isn’t endless. It might feel like it is but it isn’t. As Bryan Ferry once said, “Nothing lasts forever, of that I’m sure” Having said that Avalon is still a cracker.

“The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step…”

CHAIRMAN MAO – (HE SAID IT)

“To begin at the beginning…”

DYLAN THOMAS – UNDER MILK WOOD

“Begin the Beguine”

JULIO IGLESIAS – BEGIN THE BEGUINE

If you are going to enter into a divorce you have to be like the man at the tollbooth. You have to be willing to accept change. That’s right, it’s a joke, a simple joke and indicative of the sort of humour I’ll be peppering throughout the book to alleviate the pain and sorrow and heartbreak.

However, unlike the lowly man in the tollbooth,you won’t be looking at small change, you’ll be looking at big change. Divorce brings with it huge changes, great sweeping changes in all areas of your life, right across the board.

One of the first things to change is the lock.

Like me, you might come home one day and find that your key no longer fits your wife’s lock, another man’s key now fits. I appreciate how that looks in print but I’m afraid that’s not the sort of humour I’m talking about. I’m not denying that it’s humorous, of course it is, it’s a zinger. The point is that it’s unintentionally humorous; the double entendre just crept up uninvited and, frankly, unwelcome. If that’s the sort of thing you find “amusing” then I’m afraid this book is going to be a great disappointment to you.

In all honesty it could be a great disappointment on many other levels too, I just don’t know. It’s my first book and of course I have my doubts as to my ability to “deliver the goods” as they say in publishing, I’d be a fool not to, but that’s not going to stop me rolling up my sleeves and jumping in at the deep end. So, no off-colour humour, then. Which is not to say that I’m a prude, because I’m not, not at all. One of the best weekends of my life was a stag weekend in Plymouth for Peter Humphries in 1992. He was marrying a girl he’d met on holiday in Minehead and wanted to have his stag in Plymouth as he’d spent his Easters there as a child. If you’ve never been, it’s a heck of a town, and while there we all went to see Jim Davidson’s production of Sinderella. That’s right, with an s, Sinderella! It was quite near the knuckle but I enjoyed it, I really did. Jim was on top form, his usual cheeky self, and I have to say that the sound and lighting were some of the best I’ve ever seen (and heard) in a theatre,^[1] and that includes “We Will Rock You”! It was that good. Anyway, the point is, I went and I enjoyed it, so I’m not a prude. However, I don’t think that a book like this is the right platform for saucy humour, so if that’s what you’re looking for I’m afraid it’s time to hunt out your receipt. Alternatively, if you haven’t yet made your purchase and you’re just browsing then please put down the book and step away from the display. I’m assuming that you’ve picked the book up from a stand-alone display that’s what Fourth Estate have promised and I have no reason to doubt them. As for Peter and Jo, it’s bad news I’m afraid. They’re not together any more, she went to see a hypnotist to give up smoking and… Well, I’m sure you can guess the rest.

That’s right, they broke up, very sad, and it’s happening more and more. The figures make for depressing reading; let’s dwell on them for a while.

In 2003 there were 143,818 divorces, that’s right, one hundred and forty-three thousand, eight hundred and eighteen! Terrible! That’s up 1.79% on the previous year. Awful. But it’s not all bad news. In the same year there were 249,227 marriages; so more marriages than divorces, hurrah! Ah, but wait… that was 7% down on the previous year. So… The figures are all over the place, like a see-saw, up and down, round and round… Actually not round and round, they’ve banned those see-saws, the ones that go round and round, too many accidents in playgrounds, the dark days of concrete flooring, before the springy rubber surface under the swings. And now a lot of them have wood chippings, which are a Godsend, although there again they can disguise the dog dirt and that can lead to all sorts of gastric complications and in some cases, blindness. It’s a minefield.

Divorce figures: like a see-saw

One thing is clear, though: any way you slice it, couples are not staying together. Why? Well, there can be many reasons for the break-up of a marriage: infidelity, unfaithfulness, betrayal, these can all play a part.