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The American Medical Association (AMA) states that 80 percent of all health problems are stress related. That stress reaction is actually fear. We call it stress because we are allowed to say it happens to us. If I tell you I am stressed, it sends the message, “I am powerful and superhuman in my relationship and career. I’m not a failure.” Fear is a different animal in our society. If we tell people we are afraid, it sends the message that we are weak and definitely a failure. To avoid this, we have all dropped into denial and created an empowering word to disguise what is really happening. We then continue our stress-related activity, which is self-victimization but at least we are in charge of it. This is another way we try to get our power back, though it inevitably backfires. When we are in denial, we keep self-victimizing ourselves, which keeps us repeating the cycle. When we use the word stress instead of fear, we are perpetuating the cycle. Society tells us, “it’s okay to be stressed because it means I’m doing more than you are.” By doing this, we gain sympathy from others for how much we are enduring. In essence, this gives us power. It also gives us permission to revictimize ourselves because we are stealing sympathy from others. If we used the term fear instead of stress, people would point out how we are doing that to ourselves.