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As you are chatting with your new Quarry, it begins to dawn on you: ‘This person really is special. It’s not just physical attraction. This individual has relationship potential.’ Within thirty seconds your heart starts pumping a little faster and your throat suddenly goes dry. Could this be the start of something big?

Instead of mission control directing all the parts of your body to make all the right moves, your brain suddenly begins wondering about the impression you are making on your Quarry. Your breath becomes short. You sense a delirious drowning feeling. Unfortunately, that is a side effect of PEA shooting through your brain.

Watch out! You cannot be your engaging and scintillating self if nervousness sets in and you start thinking about your every move. There is no time now to concentrate on Perper’s Principles and try to recall if touch comes before synchronicity. Or was it turning before touch? At high-anxiety moments like these you need a simple technique to make your body do precisely what Dr Perper prescribes so you can pay attention to what your fabulous new Quarry is saying.

Hunters, the following is especially important for you because men often forget that times have changed. In the old days a woman had to be impressed with your muscles or your speed and know you could go out into the jungle and trap a wild pig or a rabbit for dinner. However, many women today can afford their own pork pâté or rabbit chasseur at a fancy restaurant. The name of the game is no longer impress a woman. It’s show how impressed you are with her.

Huntresses, most of us were weaned on boosting the male ego. Perhaps some chemical in mother’s milk told us to kow-tow to all the men in our life. By age five we had already learned what worked: ‘Oh, Daddykins, you’re so wunderful. I know you’ll buy me that Barbie doll.’ Then something happened: we grew up. Some of us became feminists. Like throwing out the baby with the bath water, many women threw out the ‘Oh, you’re so wunderful’ attitude along with their tattered Barbie dolls.

The modern woman feels she needs to express her capability, her independence, her super-intelligence straight away. Wrong! There is plenty of time to show a man these qualities later, and you must show them if you want to have a good relationship with mutual respect. But now is not the time! Now is the time to make the man feel that you think he is just absolutely, positively ‘wunderful’.

Both men and women are infinitely more drawn to someone who instantly likes them. In several studies, men and women who didn’t know each other were told, falsely, by researchers that another participant liked them. When later questioned whom they liked in the group, practically every participant chose someone of the opposite sex who supposedly ‘liked them’. Unfortunately, you don’t have a researcher whispering in your Quarry’s ear how much you like them, so you must demonstrate that all on your own. Since saying ‘I like you’ sounds a tad abrupt in words, leave it to your body to do the talking for you.

While chatting with him or her, think of this one word: soften. Match your body language up against the acronym which spells soften. It’s an insurance policy against tripping in the Dance of Intimacy.

TECHNIQUE 9

Soften Your Quarry’s Heart

S is for smile. As you are listening to your Quarry, let a soft smile of acceptance frame your lips.

O is for open body. Face your Quarry fully, nose to nose, belly to belly. Keep your arms open in a relaxed, inviting position.

F is for forward lean. Lean towards your Quarry or stand or sit just a tad too close to show you are physically attracted.

T is for touch. Gently, even ‘accidentally’, touch your Quarry’s arm or brush a piece of thread from his or her clothing.

E is for eye contact. Remember to use all four of the eye allure techniques we discussed.

N is for nod. Nod your head gently in response to whatever your Quarry is saying.