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For most of us, the concept of a wife led marriage seems backwards and maybe even taboo. Where does that come from? It comes from our culture and the environment we were raised in. We have been influenced by our environment from an early age and these impressions good, bad or indifferent, shape the person we are. Our beliefs are shaped by our environment.

The typical marriage in the western world uses a patriarchal architype. The man is the head of the household. It’s the old hunter/gatherer scenario. The men go out and do the hunting and the women tend to the children and the home. This has been the framework for a long time. In the 1960’s, women's rights made leaps and bounds. The women's movement stirred things up and allowed women to break out of the home. However, things move slow when it comes to culture.

Women have freed themselves from having to be a housewife; they can go out and earn a living like men. The reality is that even today as we enter the 2020’s, women do not have equal pay, and are still considered the ones to take care of the home and children. On top of this, they are to be the obedient wife and serve their husband.

What if… it didn’t have to be this way? What if women were empowered by their husbands? How might that positively affect their marriage, their happiness as a couple? As you study this, it becomes clear that husbands hold the key to empowering their wives. Who else can do it? Society moves at a slow pace; businesses will continue to under pay women. What becomes the norm, stays the norm for a longtime. However, what happens in the sanctity of one’s home is no one else’s business. Thus, the husband in the home is free to empower his wife.

Remember this is a two-way street. It takes two to make it work. As simplistic as some of this may sound, these ideas can be complicated to implement. We are talking about marriage, cultural norms, empowerment; these all have many layers to them. Making the transformation may be well worth it, however, it’s not a straight path. Scientist have found no straight lines in the universe, adding a wife led marriage will have no straight lines to follow. That is the universe we live in; we zig and zag to get where we are going.

The lines of a wife led marriage can be blurry. What does that mean? Again, this is not the norm. Anytime you are going against the grain, and you are doing something different, no clear path may exists. Possibly too, no clear definition of what you are doing exists.

Part of the challenge with creating a wife led marriage as a man, is all the cultural and psychological boundaries you may need to cross to get there. A wife led marriage is not a topic most people know about. You are going out on a ledge. And that is where your growth lies. A wife led marriage is fun, creative, exciting, scary and many more things. It is up to you and your better half to create it together.

This is part of the fun too, you have to get off your butt and do your part to create this. It will take desire, courage, vulnerability, trust, communications, patience and action to put this process in motion.

As always, it comes down to fundamentals. How good is your communication? How strong is your relationship? How supportive are you already? This is your reality check, if you are doing great on the fundamentals then you have a solid foundation to work upon. The wife led marriage is a noble pursuit and provides an opportunity to make your relationship better on many levels.