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There are times we tend to attract the wrong people into our lives people aren't good for us, nothing in common, different lifestyles, different beliefs, not suitable etc. As each person has their own personality however they might have similar traits and things in common so they could either get along or don't get along. That is why most people break up with their partners because they have jumped into something before really getting to know someone which is why it doesn't last. We see how people get divorced and separated and there's bitterness and problems with custody battles involving children. Adults fighting over things trying to hurt them by being nasty trying to take things away from them so this occasionally happens because they are both upset and hurting by what happened.

When you are learning about someone try and be respectful and understanding about someones feelings and beliefs because everyone is different and we all come from different backgrounds/cultures. When you want to attract the right people into your life whether its friends, companions, partners, employees etc. Picking out people who seem to be the right person/s for you depending on what you need and want. Sometimes people tend to go out with just anyone because they are lonely or bored and at the time it seems to be the right move but later on you find out your not really suited for that person.

Be clear about what you want so if you want to be just friends then say so and then there will be no disappointments and problems. And so no one will get hurt this way it is fair on all people involved it will make things easier and less complicated for all of them. When we choose people who are not right for us it will maybe cause trouble and/or could lead into a bad situation which turns ugly.

Start a conversation with them, get to know them, ask questions, talk about things you like, if they are interested in you they might give you eye contact when talking, you might go to places to meet people and you could places that does has things you like such as:

Hobby - if you're into doing things that are creative you might go to a place which does creative things.

Favorite sport - then if you like sport you could go to a sporting event or go play a sport.

To find out if someone might be good for you you might go and take the step to approach them and begin a conversation and see where it leads.

Example:

At a nightclub

Man: "Hey there would you like to dance?"

Girl: "No. I'm hanging out with my girlfriends."

Man: "Can I buy you a drink?"

Girl: "No thank you please leave me alone I love David."

Sometimes people think of different things and they can occasionally misunderstand and misinterpret things. And so its necessary to act in a way so that people don't get confused and misled.

Body language.

Verbal & Physical communication - Use the appropriate language and have a conversation suggesting what you'd like and don't want. That way everyone is understanding what's going on.

Actions.

Make contact with them via phone calls, emails etc.

Give out the right signals so people don't get misled or misunderstand you and to be

If you give out the wrong signal the other person/s could get confused and take it to be something its not.

To remember our thinking/thoughts are not always the same as other people so we/they could react in a different way leading them to behave in a certain way. Which could lead to an unpleasant experience causing someone to get hurt emotionally and/or physically depending on the situation. You don't want to jump into something to quickly so you should first get to know someone seeing if there's chemistry and that you are attracted to that person. Finding out how they feel about things their beliefs, their likes and dislikes and see if you're suited for each other.

By being yourself and being upfront what you like and don't will allow you to see if that is the right person for you and when/if you want to do a project making sure you choose the right people who have all the necessary skills which you need. Then this way you can move forward knowing that its going to be easier because you don't have to worry later on that someone doesn't know how to do something. Finding out at the start is better because you can begin to organize your work and carry on without worrying about things.

Find the right person for you by just being you saying yes or no getting what you want and need.