Читать книгу Planning A Wedding For Dummies - Sarah Lizabeth Barker - Страница 33

I love to see how my clients propose to their bridal party. Asking your bridal party to be in your wedding is a long-standing tradition, but now we “propose” to our bridal party. When I started my career as a wedding planner, clients would just ask their bridal party, “Hey, want to be in my wedding?” Now we have elaborate ways to ask them and if you’re into it, let’s explore some fun ideas. I’ll also discuss the good old-fashioned way to ask them to be a part of your big day.

These are special people to you and whether you want to go all out or keep it simple, they deserve to feel special. They have obviously influenced your life in a positive way, so in this section, we’re going to talk about some ways you can honor them and ask them to be on your squad. Most importantly, you need to make sure they are available on the big day!

 Special dinner. If all of your bridal party is in one location, plan a special night out where all of you — including spouses or dates — go out to dinner at a local hot spot. Thank them for being so special to you and ask them at dinner to be in your wedding. Of course, it’s unlikely that everyone lives in the city where you live, so individual dinners held as you can are fun too!

 Phone a friend. There’s a good chance that your bridal party all live in different locations. If you can’t see your bridal party in person, at minimum call them rather than texting them. You need to speak to them directly and tell them how much it would mean to you if they were in your wedding. Make sure that they are comfortable with the financial obligations and commitment of supporting you during the process.

 Write a letter. A handwritten letter is a special way to ask your bridal party to be in your wedding. We don’t often receive letters in the mail anymore, so this is very meaningful. A personal letter to each member of your bridal party isn’t elaborate but would mean so much to the recipients. Explain in the letter why you want them to be in your wedding. Include the date and location to make sure that when they respond to your letter, they can make it to your wedding.

 Gift or gift basket. Many resources online have cute premade gifts to help pop the question. Who doesn’t love a good gift? A themed gift asking them to be on your squad is even better. If you make your own, include bridal party items such a tumbler with “Maid of Honor,” “Best Man,” “Bridesmaid,” or “Groomsman” imprinted on it. You could send a robe or cufflinks, and a mini bottle of champagne. Send a puzzle that they must put together that says, “Will you be my bridesmaid?” or “Will you be my groomsman?” The options are endless, so be creative and have fun designing the perfect gift for your crew. Whatever you choose, make sure to include a card asking them to be in your wedding.