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I’m sure you have attended your friends’ weddings. What did you love? What did you dislike? Did you notice the fancy china? Do you remember what you ate? What color were the flowers? What did the linens look like? Did they have paper napkins or cloth napkins?

In Table 3-1, write in some of the things you loved about your friends’ weddings and some of the things you disliked. This will help you see how much you remember about other weddings you have attended. Focus on the details to help you determine your own loves and dislikes.

TABLE 3-1 Loves/Dislikes from Your Friends’ Weddings

Your Loves	Your Dislikes

Looking over this list, are you surprised by how much you didn’t remember? I’m not. Now, if you just attended a wedding last week, chances are you remember a lot. But if it’s been over six months, you may have struggled to recall any of the details.

The point in doing this is to remind yourself that, when you design your budget, no one will remember what they had to eat; they’ll only remember if it was good. No one will remember who your DJ is; they’ll only remember if they were entertaining. No one will remember if you had white polyester tablecloths or designer linens; they’ll only remember if the tables were covered.

Now it’s your turn. In Chapter 4, we’ll pick your top five vendor categories, but for now focus on what’s most important and least important to you on your wedding day. In Table 3-2, fill in the pieces that are most important to you when you think about your wedding day.

TABLE 3-2 Your Most Important/Least Important Parts of Your Wedding Day

Most Important	Least Important

For example, you’re a lover of food so the food must be top notch; you don’t really care if you have a video so a videographer is low on your list; you want an amazing dress that makes you feel incredibly beautiful; you’re not a fan of stationery and want simple invitations; you want your guests to dance all night long so an amazing DJ or band is a must-have. We’ll customize your budget soon to fit your needs and desires for the big day.

Determining what’s most important and least important to you is a key factor in determining your budget. Our focus now is to put most of your money on the pieces that are most important to you and save on those that are least important. There’s no need to spend a ton of money on something you don’t care about. That’s what’s wrong with the standard formulas. If something isn’t important to you, why spend the money they tell you to spend on it? Why not apply that money to something that really matters to you?

I had a client who wanted simple flowers and must have told me that a thousand times during our planning meetings. She didn’t even like flowers and would often break out because she was allergic. Somewhere along the way, someone in her life told her she needed extravagant florals. But why would she need elaborate flower arrangements if she didn’t want elaborate flower arrangements? Was it to impress the guests? Why do we do that?

Of course we’ll keep your guests in mind when planning your big day, but if you’re planning something to simply impress your guests, remove that as a motivation right now. If I’ve learned anything in life, it is that you cannot and will not make everyone happy. Additionally, your friendship shouldn’t be about who’s impressing whom. This is a special day in your life and those who are invited should love you no matter if you serve filet mignon or chicken.

How did it end up for my client? She overspent on flowers and ended up with a lovely case of hives on her wedding day. All to make someone else in her life happy.

Focus on who you are as a couple, and budget together. In your marriage, you will have to budget. You’ll also have to have conversations about what you’ll spend your money on. Use budgeting for your wedding as practice for money management in your marriage.