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Destiny is really just a code word for the tendency many men have to mimic their father’s behaviors, good or bad. If you didn’t like an aspect of your father’s parenting or don’t want to repeat a major mistake that he perpetrated, talk about it with your partner. The more you talk about it, the less likely you are to repeat that mistake because you’ll engage your partner as a support system working with you to help you avoid it.

At the same time, don’t forget to replicate and celebrate the things your father did right. You’ll be chilled to the bone the first time you say something that your father used to say, but remember that repeating the good actions isn’t a bad thing. Don’t try to be different from your father “just because.” Identify what he did that was right and what was wrong and use that as a blueprint for your parenting style.