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It does not happen overnight. It takes constant practice and unflinching dedication to get rid of negative thoughts. It takes being aware and being familiar with the way our mind works to learn to shun negative thoughts. Whenever we are overwhelmed by our emotions, it is often a strong projection of the myriads of negative thoughts bundled within our minds.

Indubitably, it will not be easy to make a shift if you have an extensive history of negative self-talk. Your present self-talk became damaging over the years due to various factors. For the sake of illustration, consider a Math teacher who incessantly tells a five-year-old girl that she is “dumb. That child will believe it to be truly the case. Her inner voice would always be filled with debilitating self-talks ranging from “I am not smart” to “I can’t be an engineer” to “I hate calculations.” If you ceaselessly tell yourself such negative stories, you unconsciously affirm the thoughts and it becomes your reality. Consequently, your actions are going to reflect your low self-worth. It will not be easy getting very far if you are always putting yourself down.

No one ever made it far by telling themselves they cannot. The “I can” chant helps to dissolve every negativity. Staying off the negative radar is staying true to the “I can do it” chant. Switching off negative thoughts is a deliberate act, and there are ways we can get rid of the triggers and set our thoughts on a positive course.

Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you'll start having positive results. — Willie Nelson

 Proceed by deliberately identifying the kind of internal discourse you utilize daily. We all have one; which is yours?

 Take a mental journal of the pessimistic phrases you utilize at the close of the day.

 What triggers it? Paying close attention to the times when you make use of those pessimistic words again can help you identify what triggers them. Could it be that work demands are piling up? Is home the mouth of a shark, in Warsan Shire’s words? Are finances suddenly and steadily nosediving? Are remarks from friends getting in the way of your sanity?

 Take note of who you are with, the approximate time of day, where you are, and what you're feeling. You need to be in the moment.

 As you see yourself saying something negative in your psyche, you can stop your idea midstream by saying to yourself (or in your mind), "Quit!" Saying this so anyone might hear will be even more effective, and saying it out loud will make you more mindful of how often and where you are ceasing negative considerations. Saying “cancel” whenever you think negatively also helps in coordinating your thoughts and keeping it on the positive radar. A healthy mind is a healthy life, and a healthy life is a life brimming with positive thoughts.

 Now, burrow where it counts inside yourself and reconsider your presumptions. Is it necessary to assume negatively of an event when it’s not the case? Stop, reevaluate, and check whether you can think of an unbiased or positive substitution. Case: Notice the distinction between revealing to yourself that you can't deal with something and asking yourself how you will deal with something. Doesn't the latter make you feel more confident and prompt greater innovativeness?

As you notice yourself saying something negative in your mind, you can stop your thought midstream by saying to yourself (or in your head), "Stop!" Saying this aloud will be more powerful and having to say it aloud will make you more aware of how many times you are stopping negative thoughts and where.