Читать книгу Summary: Amour – Amour – Amour. La puissance de l’acceptation. Lise Bourbeau - Smart Reading, Ольга Ганкова - Страница 3

The concept of responsibility, which many people also interpret incorrectly, is closely related to the concept of love. The fact of the matter is, if we accept the premise that only people can make themselves happy or unhappy, then it follows that only people themselves are responsible for their happiness.

Therefore, to be responsible is to accept the consequences of your decisions and, just as importantly, to also allow others to reap the fruits of their decisions. You can only be responsible for yourself. When we feel responsible for other adults, we begin to control their behavior; we try to influence their decisions and actions. This is how we violate people’s boundaries, laying claim their independence and the right to manage their own life.

In addition, when we believe that we are responsible for someone, we always expect that these people will also take responsibility for us. But such an approach leads to a series of mutual expectations and disappointments. There is a happy mean between indifference and active attempts to make other people happy, and this is acceptance and unconditional love.