Читать книгу Summary: Amour – Amour – Amour. La puissance de l’acceptation. Lise Bourbeau - Smart Reading, Ольга Ганкова - Страница 5

Accepting oneself is even harder than accepting other people. We often strive towards and ideal, and until we reach it (and most often it is unattainable), we become more and more disappointed in ourselves.

To accept yourself, you should:

1. Admit that sometimes you do not act the way you would like to (you show aggression instead of love and acceptance, lie although you are ashamed), simply because at this moment you cannot act in a different way, because it is beyond your power and abilities. If you accept yourself the way you do not want to be, this will gradually help you become the person you want to be. And the rejection and condemnation of yourself only moves you away from the goals you are striving for.

2. Give everyone – both other people and yourself – the right to react like a human being and to demonstrate emotions. Do not judge yourself or others. When condemnation is pushed away, it makes way for acceptance – no one is to blame. The things that we all live through are not our mistakes; they are experiences that helps us to discover ourselves. We all suffer because we are traumatized and our traumas affect us. There is no person who is completely without trauma. We all have fears, weaknesses and limits. You are neither worse nor better than others, and other people are neither better nor worse than you.

It often happens that when we establish limits and restrictions, these limits begin to expand when we choose acceptance, and we get more strength and opportunities as a result. Acceptance is always better than suppression or resistance.

3. Allow yourself to be different (either good or bad) and still feel good. Yes, you are not what you would like to be. It is true that you do not even meet your own expectations and ideas. But you do not blame yourself and you know that is normal. And this is why you feel good.

4. Make yourself happy, bring pleasure and joy to yourself even when it seems to you that you are unworthy of it and you do not deserve it.

5. Reconcile with other people and accept them. It also helps to look at oneself in a different light.