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Contents by Subjects

Acceptance

2. People Can Cause Us Pain, but We Can Choose Not to Suffer

3. We Can Always Choose, but Never Control, Our Happiness

4. Depression Is Not Our Identity

5. It’s Okay to Be Not Okay

29. Love Is Not about Sacrifices, but about Acceptance

31. Creating Positive Change Requires Us to See the Best and Not the Worst in Someone

32. To Help Someone Change, We Must Genuinely Accept Them

39. If You Expect a Dog to Meow, You’re Definitely Going to Be Disappointed!

47. When a Person Triggers You, Thank Them for Teaching You Something about Yourself

53. Letting Go Is Never for the Person Who Wronged Us—It’s For Ourselves

53. Don’t Let Your Pain of the Past Stop You from Fully Living in the Present

56. Take the Thorn from Your Heart and Throw It Away

62. There Are No Good or Bad Emotions, Only Those That Serve or Don’t Serve Us

63. Don’t Use Blame and Guilt to Punish Yourself

66. We Cannot Let Go of What We Pretend Isn’t There

72. When You’re Having a Difficult Time: Remember That Life Doesn’t Happen to Us, It Happens for Us

Awareness

14. Are Your Expectations Helping or Sabotaging You?

15. Don’t Let Resentment Eat Away at Your Relationship

17. Are Your Subconscious Expectations Hurting Your Relationship?

26. “But It’s Only Fair” Is a Concept That Brings a Great Deal of Misery

28. Don’t Outsource Your Happiness to Your Partner

30. Expecting Someone to Have No Expectations Is an Expectation in Itself

33. To Create Positive Change, Change Yourself

35. When the Going Gets Tough, How Do You Respond?

36. Do People Make You Unhappy? Or Is Your Belief Making You Unhappy?

37. When We Unintentionally Judge People, We End Up Unintentionally Unhappy

43. When Solving Problems, Ask, “Is My Reaction Part of the Problem?”

50. Other People’s Bad Behavior Does Not Justify Our Own

63. Hate Spills Over to the People We Love, Especially Our Children

Perspective

1. Life Is Either a Celebration or a Lesson

9. Nobody Can Make Us Happy or Unhappy

11. Your Normal Is Not the Universal Normal (Part 1)

12. Your Normal Is Not the Universal Normal (Part 2)

21. When Someone We Love Gives Us What We Need, It Is a Gift, Not Something to Which We Are Entitled

23. Everyone Has Their Own Journey, and Nobody Is Obligated to Us

40. When Two People Disagree, Who Is Right?

73. When You Want to be Easily Happy: Make Even the Simple Things a Five-Star Experience

Self-Love

7. Self-Criticism Is Not Self-Improvement

8. We Are Never Victims When We Value Ourselves

24. People Can Love Us, but They Cannot Complete Us

25. We Don’t Find Fulfilment in Other People; We Find Fulfilment by Looking Inward

61. When We’re Not Driven by Our Egos, We Can Lose the Battle to Win the War

65. What Is It from Our Past That Weighs Us Down Today?

69. When You Have Been Hurt: Keep the Doors to Your Heart Open to Let In Amazing New Things

70. When Your Heart Is Broken: Take Your Happiness Back into Your Own Hands

Understanding

6. We Cannot Find Happiness, Because It Has Never Been Lost

10. Understand the Relationship You Have with Yourself

13. Our Expectations Are Our Standards Imposed Upon Someone Else

16. To Talk Instead of Argue, Be Curious Instead of Accusatory

18. There Are No Unspoken Rules in the Human Realm

19. Even If What Is Important to You Isn’t Important to Your Partner, It Does Not Mean That You Are Unimportant

20. It’s Not Personal, Even When It Feels Personal

22. Our Ability to Love Is Only as Good as Our Skills

27. When We Give (without Expectations), We Receive

34. It’s Not about Negative People, It’s about Not Being Negatively Affected

38. The Person Is Not Difficult, They Are Just Very Different from You

41. When You Care Whose Fault It Is, You Cannot Be Happy

42. Don’t Let the Concept of Fairness Make You Lose Sight of Your Objectives

44. To Be Understood, We Have to First Understand

45. We Don’t Need to Agree to Understand

46. Difficult Conversations Need to Be Non-Confrontational

48. Do You Recognize the Voices of Your Ego and Your Self-Esteem?

49. Put Out the Fire; Don’t Add More Fuel to It

50. Offense Can Certainly Be Given, but It Doesn’t Have to Be Taken

52. When People Take Advantage of Us, We Don’t Need Blame or Anger to Stand Up for Ourselves

53. People Don’t “Do” Things to Us, They Do Things to Themselves

56. Satisfaction Only Disguises Itself as Happiness

58. Righteous Anger Is Not Self-Preservation, It’s Self-Sabotage

59. Do We Seek to Empower Ourselves or to Control Others?

67. To Let Go of the Big Things, Practice Letting Go of the Small, Everyday Things

68. When You Want to Grow: Practice the Three Stages of Happiness—the Rehearsal, the Performance, and the Review

71. When You’re Having a Bad Day: Choose Happiness, Because Choosing Misery Is a Lot Harder