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If you allow self-pity to take hold when you’re dealing with stress, you’ll put off working on a solution. Watch out for red flags that you’re allowing yourself to feel self-pity and take a proactive approach to change your attitude at the first sign of feeling sorry for yourself.

What’s Helpful

Giving yourself a reality check so you don’t exaggerate how bad the situation really is

Replacing overly negative thoughts about your situation with more realistic thoughts

Choosing to actively problem-solve and work on improving your situation

Getting active and behaving in a way that makes you less likely to feel sorry for yourself, even when you don’t feel like it

Practicing gratitude every day

What’s Not Helpful

Allowing yourself to believe that your life is worse than most other people’s lives

Indulging in exaggeratedly negative thoughts about how difficult your life is

Remaining passive about the situation and focusing only on how you feel, rather than what you can do

Declining to participate in experiences and activities that could help you feel better

Staying focused on what you don’t have rather than what you do have