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Complaining

Complain if you must but only if it’s just.

BETTY SHINE

IN BUSINESS, people have come to expect complaints. Only time will tell whether or not they are justified. But people who complain continually make our lives a misery.

Through healing, I have found that unhappiness is often at the root of the problem. Cure that, and the complaints will cease. Very rarely do happy people complain, and when they do it is usually for a very good reason. There are those of course who never complain, for fear of reprisal or humiliation. If they make a complaint, then you can be pretty sure it is fully justified – listen to them, and learn from it.

Before airing a complaint yourself, think: Is it really that important? Are you being selfish? Are you looking for sympathy? Are you in need of attention? The list of possibilities is endless, but keep asking yourself questions. If you then still feel the need to complain, then go ahead. At least you will have reassured yourself that you are not complaining for the sake of it.

Visualisation: You are sitting at work when the office moaner arrives. Not only do they disrupt your day, but it takes all of your strength not to be rude. When they leave you feel like a washed-out rag. On they go, from one person to another. Some suggest, kindly, that if their life is that bad then action should be taken. The advice is ignored.

Another day at the office the same thing happens, only this time the complainant reckons that someone tried to attack them on the way to work. No one wants to listen. Later, that same person is found slumped over their desk. You notice they are covered in bruises. Everyone feels guilty – in this instance the complaint had been justified. But having listened to so many unwarranted complaints, how could you have known the seriousness of it this time?

Monitor yourself so that when you make a complaint, people will listen, and teach others by your example.

Affirmation: I will complain only when it is justified.