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Are you ready to clear the way for big l-o-v-e? Ready to throw out the guilt-laden and shame-creating beliefs that stop you from flying your self-love flag, or that get in the way of your acts of self-love? Ready to release the belief that you must not think too much of yourself, put yourself first, or express your love for yourself in public? Then wave good-bye to words like selfish, vain, and narcissistic. They bear no relation to self-love. Say hello to knowing that, without a doubt, no matter what anyone else says, self-love can only be a good thing. With your self-love mind-set in place, you’ll be free and clear to love yourself openly without apology. Fearless self-love!

Over the next several pages, you will come face-to-face with some of the biggest misunderstandings and lies about self-love, beliefs that may have taken up residence in your conscious or subconscious mind, causing you to create habits and beliefs that don’t serve you. When this “dirt” about self-love is present in your psyche, you cannot do right by yourself and love yourself well, no matter how much you want to. But once you can see the dirty beliefs and mucked-up misunderstandings more clearly, you’ll gain the power to clean them up, get them out of your mind, and replace them with the truth about love. With the truth in place, you will find it easier to make self-loving choices.

This clean-up is essential. Your mind is tricky. If it doesn’t believe it’s safe for you to love yourself, and that only good can come from loving yourself, it will sabotage even your best intentions. Your heart, however, is wise and courageous, and it always knows the truth. Your mission is to put your mind at ease and in the backseat, and to rev up your heart so it can take control. Your heart instinctively knows the path to love. It has been waiting for you to give it permission to override the misunderstandings that clutter up your mind. Of course, we will do this in Madly in Love with ME style — in a way that is powerful yet playful, and daring yet practical. You, my dear, are about to take a Love Bath.

We are going to dive into four of the most common misconceptions and misunderstandings about self-love. As you come upon each one, follow these four steps:

1. Read the misunderstanding about self-love.

2. Pause for a ME Moment and answer the questions provided. Spot-check yourself to see if this mucky belief has stuck itself to your mind. Answer the questions to determine whether you need to do some cleanup. If you answer no to the questions listed, you are clear and can move on to the next misunderstanding. But if you answer yes to any of the questions, you are in need of a Love Bath, so proceed to step 3.

3. Take a Love Bath. Get your love loofah out and stop to take a Love Bath — superfun, supereasy, and superpowerful; directions below.

4. Bonus: Accept a Daring Act of Love. To get the love soaking into an even deeper level (we don’t want to leave space for that dirt to seep back in!), I recommend that after each Love Bath, you indulge yourself with a Daring Act of Love for yourself. Think of this as wrapping yourself in the most luscious bathrobe or blanket after a refreshing bath and enveloping yourself in love. Take the Daring Act of Love immediately if you can, or schedule it on your calendar — you know, make a date with yourself. After all, who better to have a date with?

Step 1. Scrub off the dirty belief.

With gusto and conviction, speak aloud while wiping off your arms, from your shoulders down to your fingertips, as if you were giving yourself a brisk loofah scrub: “I release the belief that loving myself is <<insert misunderstanding>>.” For example, say, “I release the belief that loving myself is selfish.”

Imagine, as you literally rub your hands up and down your arms, a love loofah wiping off any dirt in your mind and body cells that gets in the way of your giving yourself love in all its forms. Keep rubbing and repeating the words until you feel a release. Imagine this misbelief being scrubbed right out of your system. Rub everywhere and anywhere. Stand up and move around; get your body into it. Then blow out the belief with a huge exhale!

Step 2. Rub in the love!

Now, as if you were rubbing the most luxurious, silky, aromatic lotion onto your chest, slow down, close your eyes, breathe, and move your hand in clockwise circles right over your heart, touching your skin, repeating the new belief as a Love Mantra using what I’ve written below (or your own words) three times.

When you add a physical component to Love Mantras, they connect you to your heart through movement and touch, which gives you double the love power. When you slowly rub your hand in circles over your heart so that you can feel your hand moving over your skin, it is as if you were rubbing the truth about love right into your heart. Go ahead and test it out right now. Rub these words into your mind, body, heart, and spirit by saying the Love Mantra out loud while rubbing your hand in a circular motion over your heart:

“Only good can come to me and others from my choosing to love myself…”

“Only good can come to me and others from my choosing to love myself…”

“Only good can come to me and others from my choosing to love myself.”

Then stop, keeping your hand on your heart, and feel the words and their superlove vibe sink in. Notice any shifts in your feelings and body sensations. This is what giving love to yourself feels like. It’s good, isn’t it?

Love Note: I’d never ask you to do something I haven’t done myself! I always experiment with myself (and with other daring souls) before recommending a Daring Act of Love. If you’d like to see a live video demo of me in this Daring Act of Love, check out Self-Love TV, which I created just for people like you who make the daring choice to choose self-love. Go to www.SelfLoveTV.com to access these videos, where you’ll be welcomed into a playground of self-love — seriously, it’s a self-love candy land!

As you move forward, challenge yourself to dive into each misunderstanding and find what’s there for you to release, so that you can rewire your mind with a new self-loving truth. Answer the questions honestly, take the Love Baths when needed, and engage in the Daring Acts of Love. Just reading the words won’t work. You need the combination of the power of the mantra (spoken word), movement, and brain science, with a twist of good old-fashioned fun and comfort-zone-pushing, to get results.

The impact? Liberation to love, baby. Liberation to love!

Note: If you still can’t get past feeling silly about taking this Love Bath, ask your inner seven-year-old to do it for you. Remember that little girl you invited to take this journey with you? She doesn’t care what anyone, including you, thinks about how silly she looks!