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This adventure was inspired by a combination of powerful techniques I learned from two self-love superstars — Pele Rouge Chadima, one of my spiritual mentors, and Christine Hassler, my self-love sister and cocreator of the Choosing ME before WE 40-Day Self-Love Practice.

Supplies:

♥ A few sheets of paper and some markers

♥ Permission to let the little girl inside you pick up a pencil or marker without judgment of her creative abilities, including the permission to draw and color outside the lines

♥ Optional: “Self-Love Imprint” Loveplate at www.ChooseSelfLove.com

Mission:

Restructure your mind’s understanding of self-love and uncover the subconscious beliefs that you absorbed from the big influences in your life as a result of what you saw, heard, experienced, and witnessed while growing up. Then, you get to take back your Love Power and scrub off these dirty beliefs and rub in the good Love Mantras that a woman committed to loving herself lives by.

How-to:

Step 1. Sketch out your Self-Love Imprint.

In the middle of the paper, draw a small heart and write the word Self-Love inside it. Then draw lines to split the entire paper into four quadrants, and draw four small circles, one in each quadrant. Draw four spokes coming off each circle. Name the four circles Media and Society, Friends and Peers, Parents and Relatives, Education and Religion.

Step 2. Write up to four beliefs about selflove that each of these groups of people told you, showed you, or seemed to believe based on how they lived or spoke.

Go through each group, one by one, thinking to yourself, “What examples, habits, or beliefs about self-love did I see, hear, or otherwise observe … ?” Use the following list as thought starters to help you uncover the beliefs about self-love that you learned, both pro–loving yourself and anti–giving love to yourself. Keep in mind that the terms self-love and loving yourself probably weren’t often used, but that people likely expressed judgments about the attitudes and opinions that self-love and loving yourself include, which you unknowingly picked up in your subconscious. Write the beliefs on the spokes.

♥ taking care of oneself and one’s needs

♥ accepting, forgiving, or being kind to oneself

♥ giving oneself pleasure

♥ expressing oneself fully

♥ saying good things about oneself

♥ being in romantic relationships

♥ having relationships with friends and relatives

♥ trusting your inner wisdom

♥ going for your dreams

♥ having high self-esteem and self-worth

Step 3. Take a ME Moment and just notice what you see.

1. What beliefs do you find here that you didn’t realize you had, that you no longer want to keep? Which ones are you not surprised by but don’t want to keep around either? Circle or underline those — these are the beliefs you will take to your Love Bath.

2. How have these beliefs affected your ability to love yourself well? To make good decisions for yourself? To choose unconditional love and respect, no matter what?

3. What have these beliefs cost you?

4. What would you like to believe instead? Write a new belief for each of the old beliefs as powerful self-loving statements on your Self-Love Imprint. They will become the basis for your new Love Mantras.

Step 4. Clean up your beliefs and take your love power back.

For each dirty belief, take a Love Bath!

Scrub off the dirt and then, on a clean piece of paper, write out a new Love Mantra that you can use when you rub in the love. You can also use the second page of the Loveplate on www.ChooseSelfLove.com as a template to guide you through releasing the dirty beliefs and claiming the new love-based ones. Create an entire set of new Love Mantras that you can start using on a regular basis to restructure your beliefs in support of you loving yourself.

And here’s a small but mighty Love Boost for the road, a short love poem to help you always remember that love is good, even when — especially when — it’s directed at you:

Where there is love, there is nothing to fear.

People may misunderstand.

But that is their business.

As long as you are aligned with love, you can create no harm.

Step forward from here knowing that choosing to love yourself —

in all the ways that will come to light — can only be a good thing, for when you act from love, everything in your life aligns just right.